"Stories" from the Collective (YOU)

When Did My Low Self Esteem Begin?

by Anon

I don't know when my low self esteem behaviour began but I recognized that my conversation, or my thoughts were not acceptable. The sad part is, I didn't label myself as having low self esteem when I was overly critical or expecting more from some family members.

I noticed that I was very judgmental and had to voice my opinion on things.

I never had a lot of trust in others, and I used the excuse of being "very independent". Even though I have always been a giving and helpful person, I would at times feel I was being taken for granted or taken advantage of.

I am older now and I have noticed I have withdrawn from social events and even church. I would rather stay at home and watch TV even church on Sundays.

I feel I don't fit in anywhere anymore. I have phone conversations and when I do I tell myself when its over, that I talked too much and just rambled about everything.

In the list above I can say that I admit to 8 out of ten of the low self esteem signs.(NOT GOOD)

My children are adults and I try not to be depending on them for too much.

I am at the point where I have more time and I want to change my faults and become a better person. I recognize that I can use some self help tools and work to be the best that I can be.

I give advice to others now its time for me to get some advice.

I have always liked reading self help books and listening to wisdom from others and I guess I just drifted away from that for a long time and now I just do puzzles. But it is time for me to work on being the best that I can be, and find the help that I need.

I just "HAPPENED" to find this web site and I am so happy that I did. I am learning a lot already.

Comments for When Did My Low Self Esteem Begin?

Mar 02, 2015
Thank you for sharing!
by: Steve

Thanks for sharing where you find yourself right now. A long list of traits that most people would not be proud of, but most people would also probably admit to. Sometimes.

I do think it's wonderful that you've started noticing some of your less friendly behaviour, to both others and yourself.

And it's great that you've found my site, and like what you're reading (thank you :) ).

But... I would really encourage you to be kinder to yourself, also. It's great to "work on ourselves" as long as it's not coming from a place of believing that you're broken and need to be fixed. You don't. You're just human. And you have bad days, as well as good.

Does that make sense?


PS As it happens I just finished creating a page of self esteem quotes, on my site site. There are some lovely ways to be kind to yourself, as well as to take responsibility also - www.smnash.com/top-10-self-esteem-quotes/

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