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Ugly.

Ugly.

I feel so ugly all the time.

When I wake up in the morning and look at myself in the mirror, all I see is an ugly girl. Nothing really helps me feel pretty. When I put on some makeup, I feel even uglier.

When I do my hair perfectly and have the cutest outfit, I think "This would look better on a pretty girl"

There are times when I feel beautiful, but then when I see a prettier girl walk passed me, all my confidence just disappears.

I feel like I'm never going to find someone who thinks I'm beautiful and who loves me because I'm so ugly. When there's a guy who likes me, I never let myself believe it. I always think "How can he think I'm cute? I'm gross" and when I do let myself believe it, I always end up getting hurt. They always end up leaving. I don't know why, like did I make that easy for them to walk right in and out of my life?

When I close my eyes, I imagine myself beautiful. I imagine myself looking like a princess. My friends say I'm gorgeous, but I mean, they are my friends, they are supposed to support me right! All of my friends are so beautiful, and when I'm with them I feel like I'm the rotten apple in a garden of roses.

I used to go to my room and cry and blame my parents for making me so ugly. I don't understand why I got blessed with the bad looks. My whole family is beautiful. My mom is drop dead gorgeous and my dad is so handsome. All my sisters are beautiful, except me.

I haven't always been this negative on myself, I used to be so confident, until one day a guy at school said "You're so ugly. You're probably going to end up with no one. I mean, what guy is ever going to want you?"

Those words changed everything on how I saw myself.

My self-esteem just crashed down. That really hurt coming from a guy. I soon started to believe him and ever since then, I've never felt completely beautiful. I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I do. I can't help it.

A New Way of Seeing Self-Esteem?

Steve here, and for the last few years (since Oct 2012, actually) I've been seeing (and thinking about) low self-esteem in a different way. Not as a problem to fix, but as feedback to notice (and nothing more). That's right: nothing to fix, everything to notice. And all this became obvious to me after being introduced to the Three Principles behind life (in Oct 2012).

I created a free 1-page Self-Esteem Guide that explains more, anyway. You can read about it here (NO EMAIL REQUIRED) - SMNash.com/self-esteem-guide/

Thank you - Steve

Comments for Ugly.

Mar 06, 2011

Nobody is ugly.
by: Larry

. . .I haven't always been this negative on myself, I used to be so confident, until one day a guy at school said "You're so ugly. You're probably going to end up with no one. I mean, what guy is ever going to want you?" . . .

What! You're letting the remarks of ONE bloke get to you so much?

He was obviously, for whatever reason, trying to hurt you - and he succeeded big time.

My guess is that he would not have said such a thing unless he really felt just the opposite. Seems to me he found you desirable but felt rejected for some reason.

But whatever he said that for, disregard it. Tell yourself that you have got everything, that you are attractive and popular, and believe it . . . then everyone else will as well.

Feb 21, 2011

Ugly thoughts
by: Steve

I'm so sorry that you think this way about yourself - ugly thoughts indeed!

And obviiously I have no magic wand to wave to help you transform these thoughts into ones that serve you, rather than hinder you!

I just hope that you sharing your honest thoughts here has helped in showing you where you are at, right now. And I wish you well in moving from there to a place that serves you, and everyone around you, better...

Thanks again for these honest low self esteem symptoms

Steve

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