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SAB's Low Self Esteem Symptoms

by SAB
(Manchester, UK)

My low self-esteem signs come from...

Doubting how others see me

After losing 8 stone in the past 2 years I find myself still doubting what I see in the mirror as being the "new me"; I also think that other people see me as the obese person I was.

So if anyone is chuckling or talking with someone and they're looking in my direction then I feel like they are making fun of me!

I know, deep down, that I don't look bad these days, but there is a slight niggle deep inside that tells me that I am still that obese person who I was.

Thank you for sharing your low self-esteem signs SAB. I'm sure there are many who read this who know just how you feel. Just shows how powerful body image is, I guess, that even when your body 'improves' your body image might not.

Thank you for sharing, SAB - this is the first step in you finding your own strength to challenge the way you see yourself! Would others like to comment?...

A New Way of Seeing Self-Esteem?

Steve here, and for the last few years (since Oct 2012, actually) I've been seeing (and thinking about) low self-esteem in a different way. Not as a problem to fix, but as feedback to notice (and nothing more). That's right: nothing to fix, everything to notice. And all this became obvious to me after being introduced to the Three Principles behind life (in Oct 2012).

I created a free 1-page Self-Esteem Guide that explains more, anyway. You can read about it here (NO EMAIL REQUIRED) - SMNash.com/self-esteem-guide/

Thank you - Steve



Comments for SAB's Low Self Esteem Symptoms

Oct 24, 2011
Yes. Been there
by: Sandy

I found that it's not so much that I care what others think, but I start to doubt how I look. It really comes down to how I think about myself. And sometimes I do see things I need to work on with grooming. Once I see what I want, I do work on it.

I also have learned to distance myself from people who are overly concerned about "appearance". Years ago I made a pact with myself not to talk or gossip about what other people look like. And its a process. But has really helped me to look at myself with more objectivity than anger.

It all begins with how you treat yourself. If you're hard on yourself then when others are hard on you, you will identify with them.

Just be less judgemental and less concerned about your appearance. It's not important really. But as long as you're presentable in a way which does not affect someones space(for example not clean) you'll be ok.

It's part of the process of change. But in the end it is your values that count.

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