My Quest For Self Improvement
by Lance Pritchard
(Stoney Creek, Ontario, CANADA)
During the last few years, I have been on a quest to improve my life.
People would have looked at my life four years ago and would likely have said that there was nothing wrong with it. I had a good job, house, car, friends and family.
The problem was that I had achieved every goal that I had set for myself.
Suddenly I had no direction or goals.
- I had lost my passion for life, and was just not happy about anything.
- I was not only complaisant with my life but had developed all sorts of fears and restrictions on my activities.
- My priorities were looking after family and friends instead of myself.
- I could come up with so many reasons to say no to an activity or an opportunity to meet new people.
I realized that in many cases, my choice had been to take the safe road. Whether this was to protect what I had achieved or driven by fear of failing, I did not know at the time.
What I knew was that my current course of action was not making me happy.
I started comparing notes with friends to find out who else was searching for something more. I needed to know if they had life plans and dreams. The discovery was that we all question what we have achieved
at some point in our lives.
Just like me, I found that others had lost direction and were just living in 'auto pilot' on a daily basis. It appeared that many of our goals had been accepted based on what society or our family had promoted.
Many of us were purchasing our ticket to happiness through the acquisition of things. After all, how could you not be happy with a big house
, fancy car and toys or trips.
Then something interesting happened. Some of the people I knew were still working away as some of their goals. When they spoke about achieving these goals, they beamed with pride.
These same people pointed out that a person should aim big and always have goals they want to reach
. When they asked me to come up with some new goals, I had no idea how to respond.
Somehow, I had only planned goals up to a certain point.
The goals I had set 20 years ago, were supposed to fill my lifetime. As time passed, I settled for what I had and made no further plans to change anything.
Setting new goals was lost while I was pursuing and protecting my existing goals. I had also been sold and readily accepted goals promoted by others.
I did not know even where to begin or how to establish a new set of goals. My challenge was to figure out; what I wanted, what would make me happy and how to reach a new set of goals.
Being a logical person, I needed a process. I had to find a systematic approach to determining what I wanted and some method to help formulate my wants into goals.
Having fallen into the trap of limited goals, a new approach was needed. I had to ask myself why there would be limits
or restrictions on goals or even the number of goals people set for themselves.
A close friend told me that everyone should 'go big or stay home' stuck in my head. I knew that this concept had to be applied to setting new goals.This is how the steps to becoming limitless were established
As I went through each step, I documented how and why certain actions were taken. It is an ongoing process that has to be checked and maintained. Becoming 'limitless' is not a quick or easy process. It requires taking a hard look at yourself, family and friends.
Each of the steps must be completed and repeated when necessary. The process never stops.
The good news is that I did make changes to my life. I now have a limitless number of goals and a method of achieving those goals. I have interesting adventures and meet incredible people that share my passion for life.
My cup is no longer half empty. Instead, it is half full.
Each day presents opportunities to meet new people or participate in some type of activity. The message is to wake up and start living
instead of being a bystander.
Searching, setting goals and working toward happiness every day works. Being limitless and having the mindset to go after your goals and dreams, does result in a happier life.
Lance Pritchard Limitlesslifestyle.net