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My Low Self Esteem Signs

by D

Well, my symptoms of low self esteem look like this:

* Fears about what people think of me - I am fat, I am ugly, I am old, I do not like myself, I am not worthy of being loved, I'm not worthy of being in a relationship.

* Negative feelings - what's the point of making an effort, it will not make any difference? When I try to make an effort to change, my fears & self doubt soon creep in and block any positive ideas or feelings.

* My jealousies - In a relationship my jealousy becomes a major part of it i.e. I believe that someone more worthy of me will take him away from me.

I'm also jealousy of others i.e. what they have or how they look compared to me.


Thank you, D, for sharing your low self esteem signs here. It's never easy to face ourselves like you have done, but to share what you see (and don't like) takes a lot of courage - so well done!

As for improving self-esteem, there's no magic cure to believing in yourself apart from simply daring believing in yourself - the good in you, the bad, and the indifferent - but this page on Self Help Collective has some good tips:
- https://www.selfhelpcollective.com/building-self-esteem.html

Tip #1: Stop comparing yourself to others. You, me, and whoever's reading this is unique! We're not meant to be compared, we're meant to be celebrated - differences, and all!

Comments for My Low Self Esteem Signs

Nov 07, 2012
This is where to begin...
by: Sandy

Start with the person in the mirror...Michael Jackson

I hear you knowing that to judge others doesn't have good outcomes. This is what you said:

"I'm also jealousy of others i.e. what they have or how they look compared to me...."

My question to you: How can you ever feel that judgement is no ok if you are jealous of others?

I think it is good that you are able to be objective to your own behaviors and made that important insight.

Start a gratitude journal. I know it sounds trite. But what are you thankful for? This will help you begin to change your attitude and your focus.

Seek understanding in why you are jealous of others. Perhaps get counseling on this issue(nothing long term) and see if you can discover more about where your feelings of worthlessness come.

Start where you are. Be the best that you can be. Find your own style. Learn to treat yourself well. Make realistic changes.

Wishing you the best on this journey. It takes one step at a time.

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