"Stories" from the Collective (YOU)

My Low Self Esteem Signs 08

by Anonymous

My parents and all my significant others have told me throughout time that I lack self trust and I have low self esteem. I always told them that they were wrong, that I trusted myself and everything, but I never really thought about it seriously.

I'm dating a nice boy now, and I have realized I DO have low self esteem, because I compare his personality with mine. He's always self-confident, and everybody tends to listen and pay attention to him. I'm not that noticeable and I just realized. He tells me he loves me, but I just don't believe him.

So... here are my low self esteem signs, which I just noticed since I dated my (nice) new boyfriend:

- I don't trust him (nor anybody, except maybe my parents, brother and sister and that's all)

- It's hard for me to compliment myself and I don't believe people who tell me nice things. I believe that they must want something from me or are making fun of me

- I don't think the things I know, the work I do, etc., are 'enough' and think that I'm still too insignificant and ignorant

- I sometimes wake up and think how pathetic my life is (and I don't even know why)

I think those are the most significant symptoms of my low self esteem. But mainly, I get depressed easily, I can't find value in myself... and the thing I worry about the most: no matter how many times my beloved one tells me he loves me, I just don't believe him, and that's hurting him.

I realized about this problem thanks to him.

I really want to change.

A New Way of Seeing Self-Esteem?

Steve here, and for the last few years (since Oct 2012, actually) I've been seeing (and thinking about) low self-esteem in a different way. Not as a problem to fix, but as feedback to notice (and nothing more). That's right: nothing to fix, everything to notice. And all this became obvious to me after being introduced to the Three Principles behind life (in Oct 2012).

I created a free 1-page Self-Esteem Guide that explains more, anyway. You can read about it here (NO EMAIL REQUIRED) - SMNash.com/self-esteem-guide/

Thank you - Steve



Comments for My Low Self Esteem Signs 08

Jul 05, 2010
Your Low Self Esteem
by: Anonymous

To Anonymous

Firstly I strongly commend you for sharing. You have already taken the first and most difficult step and certainly you are not far form coming out of this.

* You are so valuable, significant and important and that is why even though you thought you were not all of these things you were able to identify them as signs of a low self esteem which is not part of who you truly are or who God created you to be. Instead, you are so valuable and significant - unique is who you are.

* Your life is a blessing. But you need to choose to believe that you are special. It may not feel like it right now. But someone thinks you are: firstly God, next your loved ones - your boyfriend as you shared with us. These people are able to see the true you, beyond your face.

* I know it's hard to start complimenting yourself, but I encourage you to start. Set small goals, celebrate after accomplishing them. Don't beat yourself up.

* Look around you - I bet there is someone with a low self esteem, who you will be able to identify quickly since you have been there. However this time, you are not going to allow yourself to be that person.

Instead, you are going to start the remedy. Yes you can do it. Start by complimenting that low self esteemed individual. Encourage them. Tell them they look good today. Ask them to show you how they did some project or ccoked that dish - get their recipe - boost their confidence.

In the process your confidence will be boosted, too.

God will reward you. And sooner rather than later you will become an expert in encouraging those with a low self esteem. Because you would have walked in their shoes. Who else can be a better mentor but you!

I have faith in you that with God's help you will be that great encourager that people look up to.

Oh, and please start accepting those many compliments that come your way! You deserve each and every one of them.

Receive them.

This one is from me to you. You are an awesome person - a beautiful flower ready to blossom - and this is your time. Don't hold back!

Jul 05, 2010
Sharing is the beginning of changing...
by: Steve


Thanks so much for being brave enough to share your newly discovered personal insights into yourself.

I can speak from experience when I tell you that discovering these less than pleasant facts about yourself can often come as a shock!

I can also tell you - and this is the good news! :-) - that sharing these insights can make a great deal of difference to the sharer (as I'm sure you've already experienced).

They can also help people who don't yet recognise these symptoms of low self esteem in themselves, too...

So, many many thanks again


Return to Your Low Self Esteem Signs.