My Low Self Esteem Signs #01
The list you've got on the low self esteem signs page - symptoms as you put it - is more like a great list of situations I remember all too well. And I think that list says it all, actually, but I'm going to use my own words anyway.
* Thinking the worst
Many years ago I had this girlfriend who I thought was attractive and fun. It was early days of our relationship, and I went out with her and my friends, one evening. Everything was going well and she was enjoying my friend' s company . Anyway I went to the toilet, and when I came back I found my girlfriend (lets call her Julie) apparently whispering to my friends. And I immediately thought that Julie and my friends were talking about me, behind my back, having a laugh! It turns out Julie was quite keen on me and simply wanted to know whether I was keen on her too, from my friends.
* Being judgmental
I have been very judgmental in my time. I judged people on their morals; I judged people on their values; and I judged people if they did something I didn't like. And I always thought it was okay to judge people like this, as I also judged myself so sternly too...
* Trying to be nice all the time
For some reason I decided that to make friends, get people to love you and be successful with the opposite sex the thing to do was to be nice to people. And that usually meant saying yes and not saying no. And I got very good at saying yes, even when I didn't really want to. But I was very bad at not noticing how resentful I often got when people weren't nice back to me. Classic self-esteem stuff, really.
Best stop there... Well at least I never idolized anybody! I guess that's some consolation lol
Thanks for getting the ball rolling. Well it all looks familiar to me, too. Still, I *do* think that recognising the symptoms of your low self esteem is the start of improving your self esteem. So let's have some more low self esteem signs, please!
A New Way of Seeing Self-Esteem?
Steve here, and for the last few years (since Oct 2012, actually) I've been seeing (and thinking about) low self-esteem in a different way. Not as a problem to fix, but as feedback to notice (and nothing more). That's right: nothing to fix, everything to notice. And all this became obvious to me after being introduced to the Three Principles behind life (in Oct 2012).
I created a free 1-page Self-Esteem Guide that explains more, anyway. You can read about it here (NO EMAIL REQUIRED) - SMNash.com/self-esteem-guide/
Thank you - Steve