"Stories" from the Collective (YOU)
My Low Self Esteem Problem
by S
(Lebanon Oregon, USA)
My self esteem is something my mother has preyed on as a kid, and as an adult it is driving the people I love away.
And this is then making me feel as if I am not good enough for them...
That I have to be in control...
That I always know what they are going to say and do, and that it's going to hurt me...
That I expect people to hurt me, and when it happens - when I do get hurt - then I am very unforgiving; I hold it over their head for ever...
But I cannot take responsibility for my actions, because I feel I have to be perfect - so I have to be right, or I have to be smarter then others...
Which means I get really angry when people point out my flaws...
At the same time I can not stand for anyone to tell me when I am doing good either.
A New Way of Seeing Self-Esteem?
Steve here, and for the last few years (since Oct 2012, actually) I've been seeing (and thinking about) low self-esteem in a different way. Not as a problem to fix, but as feedback to notice (and nothing more). That's right: nothing to fix, everything to notice. And all this became obvious to me after being introduced to the Three Principles behind life (in Oct 2012).
I created a free 1-page Self-Esteem Guide that explains more, anyway. You can read about it here (NO EMAIL REQUIRED) - SMNash.com/self-esteem-guide/
Thank you - Steve
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