My Goal To Give Up Work!
by Jon Rhodes
Jon Rhodes' Story
Like the proverbial frog sat in the pan of water that's slowly getting hotter and hotter, Jon found himself working harder and harder at work, feeling less and less happy, and hardly spending any time at all with the family he loved. Something had to give. And when it did, due to a family death, Jon had to make sure that he stayed focus on the outcome that he desired no matter what.
Jon's story is a fascinating insight into what determination and courage can do to transform your life.
(STORY THEME: Personal Goal Setting - amongst other things!)
My Goal To Give Up Work!
by Jon Rhodes
A few years ago I was an extremely busy person. I worked in 2 jobs, was also a professional musician, and a professional hypnotherapist. I worked the usual 9-5, and spent evenings and weekends playing gigs, rehearsing, or doing hypnotherapy. I was stressed and tired, to say the least, and had very little time for my family. When I did have time for myself, I was usually just too tired to do much, and just wanted to recuperate.
It took the death of my father in January 2008 for me to take a step back. He died at the relatively young age of 56 after an 18 month battle with cancer. I realised that I had not spent as much time with him as I should. Most of my time was instead spent on working through my obligations. I even had to battle in one of my jobs to be able to take time off work so I could take my Father to radiotherapy. Unbelievably they thought they could prevent me from doing so. But when a family member's life is in the balance, you realise how unimportant a job really is -- they come and go, and right then I didn't care if it went.
The death of my father jolted me and made me think. I took some much needed time off work, and for the first time in ages, I had time to think and reflect. I realised that I didn't want to continue like this. I did not want others attempting to control my time, and I didn't want to have no time for myself and my family. I decided to do something about it.
I had already dipped a toe into the world of online hypnotherapy. I started a free hypnotherapy site called Free Hypnosis Treatment. I combined my music and hypnotherapy skills to make a few therapeutic audio sessions to give away. To my surprise they proved very popular, and I received (and still do) some very heart-warming emails thanking me for this service, and how it has helped them turn their life around.
I decided that I was going to quit my job. However I could not do so immediately because of financial obligations. I owned 2 houses, and lived with my then fiancée and daughter. I decided to create the HypnoBusters Hypnosis MP3 website. Here I would sell some higher quality therapeutic MP3 audio sessions for an affordable nominal fee. Again to my surprise they proved popular quite quickly.
I was so eager to quit my job but it wasn't happening quickly enough for me. I was now working harder than ever because I was creating lots of audio sessions, and marketing my new site, whilst still working through all my other previous obligations. I was actually in a worse situation than before, time wise. I knew I had to be careful of getting caught in the trap of working all the time. I decided to take the bold decision to move abroad to a country where my website earnings were enough to allow me to quit my jobs. In August 2008 I moved to Morocco. On reflection, for someone who had only left the UK once in 1996, this was quite a brave decision. I had never even visited Morocco before. However it was an easy decision to make at the time, because I so badly wanted things to change. I wanted the freedom to work for myself and have time for me, my family, and my friends. It was actually a very easy decision to make.
About 3 months after deciding to go, I married my fiancée, and a week later we moved. Being in a country where living costs were lower, I no longer needed employment. I was finally free!
All I had to do was adapt my goal a little, and doings so made 'freedom' happen. I can now concentrate a lot more time on further building my online business, and also see my wife and daughter a lot more. There are of course the downsides to this. I live over 2000 miles away from the rest of my family, and my friends, and so even though I have a lot more time, I cannot spend it with them at the moment. This problem is eased a little with the help of the wonderful advances in communication technology, with email, Facebook, Skype etc.
The weather here is good about 9 months of the year. We can regularly go to the beach, and go out for meals together. I feel like for the first time I am actually getting to know them properly.
So I have already achieved my goal -- to be able to quit employment and spend time with my loved ones, even though I had to move abroad to make this happen. I can work the hours that suit me, and from almost anywhere in the world. If I want to take a few days off and go traveling, I can do -- whenever I want. In the past I was always missing out. We would get invited to a barbecue and I couldn't go. My wife and daughter would go whilst I worked. Now things are very different.
Now that I can concentrate on my online business, I have been able to grow it at quite a rapid rate. My goal is now to be able to return to the UK, earning enough where both myself and my wife do not need to work in paid employment. I know with hard work, determination, and belief that this is entirely possible, and I am getting close to my goal.
So my advice to anyone is if you are not happy with your life, then do something about it. Take some brave decisions and make it change. If you want your life to stay the same, then simply do the same things you've always done. However if you want your life to change, then you must change what you do. You will survive and you will cope. It has worked for me, and it can work for you. There are many people that may tell you what is possible and what is not possible. Don't listen to them -- make your own decisions on your future, and do it your way. You don't have to accept a life that you are unhappy with. With some determination and bravery you can turn things around.
Change is good!