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Monthly Marvel - 2012 November

by Steve M Nash
(Holmfirth, UK)

Monthly Marvel Online: 16

Inspirational Self-Esteem Quotes...

This is the self-esteem issue.

This is where I talk to you about the importance of having a healthy self-esteem versus a low self-esteem (and even a high self-esteem).

This is where I bore you senseless with the same old same old 'rah rah rah!' (I love that expression - whatever it means!)

Well, no. This is where I talk about how I raise my self-esteem, and what difference it makes to my life. And it really all boils down to something that sounds nothing like boosting self-esteem at all...

* Living life to the full, which means...
* Being yourself as much as I can, which means...

* Opening yourself up to life, and whatever it brings

Specifically, and citing examples that relate to me directly, my self-esteem rises automatically when I think of an idea and give it my best shot; e.g.

  • I created, conceived and developed the Self Help Collective website in Feb 2008 (and all because of a software-service called SBI!)
    "I'm no self-help guru, what do I know?"

  • I shared my views about life, the universe and everything on YouTube
    "Who's interested in what I have to say?"

  • I answered people's relationship questions, and am soon going to be offering an Ebook for sale on the same subject
    "What do I know about relationships? Who's going to buy anything I write?"

Those questions I include above are the sort of self-talk that, if unchallenged, keeps a person small.

Everyone has to start a journey at the beginning! So why should I be different?

And when you start (and complete) journeys you start to believe in yourself a little more, start to not mind falling down so much because you know that falling down is how you learn to get back up again.

Listen! I certainly do not have the healthiest self-esteem
in the world, but I DO believe in myself, and this isn't about comparing yourself - it's about giving it a go.

So, on that note, I say... "Welcome!"...

What's New at SelfHelpCollective.com

The latest pages added (or updated) to Self Help Collective can be found via this blog page: SelfHelpCollective's Self Help Blog.

YOUR Feedback - What You Say!

This issue's contribution is about relationship advice for a married man, an attempt on my behalf to help someone via my wisdom!

Yes, this contribution is from me - how dare I tell someone how to live their life, huh! Well, I dare... You are all free to make your own mind up, after all, it is YOUR life after all...
Read my advice to a married man -- Click here!

Dr. Laura Schlessinger Marvels...

"Self-esteem must be earned! When you dare to dream, dare to follow that dream, dare to suffer through the pain, sacrifice, self-doubts, and friction from the world, you will genuinely impress yourself."

More Self-esteem Quotes...
"Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on."
-- Maxwell Maltz

"Every new adjustment is a crisis in self-esteem."
-- Eric Hoffer

"Everyone's a star and deserves the right to twinkle"
-- Marilyn Monroe

"Magic is believing in yourself, if you can do that, you can make anything happen."
-- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself."
-- Harvey Fierstein

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
-- Eleanor Roosevelt

What I Say about Dr. Laura Schlessinger's Inspirational Self-Esteem Quote...

Listen to my thoughts about this self-esteem quotation in the video below...

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Nov 12, 2012
"It's not how hard you fall, it's how you climb back up"
by: Hanson G.

Hi Steve,
I liked very much your topic for the Nov. Mo. Marvel. It seems to coincide with certain events that are currently happening in my life i.e. having to make extra efforts (getting out of my comfort zone) to pursue my dreams.

One of the hardest things for me in general, is paying too much attention to what people say, or critique, about me. Having grown up in a family structure with high expectations from others, that demanded a lot of "perfectionism" i.e. being reprimanded for ANY kind of mistakes, it was always hard to muster-up the self-confidence I needed to move on with my life. Also my "slowness", due to my depression and "severe ADHD", made me feel inadequate and unmotivated.

But I've recently been realizing that I don't have to always pay so much attention to how the world, and its inhabitants, see or respond to me. It's about how I react, nay RESPOND, to the world. The trick is, to be as authentic as one can be - to have the courage to assert oneself and be willing to suffer the consequences.

But there's another component I've noticed, esp. when I muster-up the confidence to take certain actions : the more AWARE I am of having to take certain (next!) steps, the more the Universe subsequently works with me - I know it sounds "esoterically cliche". But recently I made a decision to move on with a particular project of mine. Up to now, I felt I'd been "stuck" too long, hesitating to take certain actions.

Once I had the opportunity to take new action, all of a sudden different pieces started to "automatically" fall into place, and circumstances were suddenly more my "allies" than "enemies"! I'm not saying that this was the only way things could turn out to be, but I was surprised how just "kick-starting" this project again enabled positive circumstances to manifest. Just getting over the "apprehensions" seemed to be the lesson to be learned. There are still challenges and things to work out, but the main thing is, I feel better about myself. By enabling myself to be in synch with things (even "subconsciously"), the Universe gave me some positive feedback.

Maybe tomorrow I'll do something to the contrary, make MISTAKES. But I don't want them to be the measuring rod for my real CAPACITIES to do things in the context of my project. I found an interesting quote in respect to this :

"Don't live in the past - preserve the future".

Said from a farmer claiming to have made innumerable mistakes in life. But compared to a farmer friend of his who got bogged-down by his mistakes (apparently a "sentimental" person), he decided the only way to move forward, was to decide to always try and start anew, no matter what it took. That seems to be the difference between the two.

Like you've said before Steve, it really does take COURAGE to stand up to one's CONVICTIONS. Even more so to decide to be ACCOUNTABLE for one's mistakes, and just move on.

Thanks for letting me share. I hope some of you may get something out of this! Cheers!

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