Low Self Esteem Due to My Husband
My symptoms of low self esteem are when I allow others to walk all over me...
I was married to a man who constantly told me I was too fat, not sexy enough, lousy in bed, and wore dowdy clothes.
He constantly told me I was a bad wife because my cooking and cleaning skills were not up to scratch.
After my children were born he added that I was a bad mother.
On the outside I became a people pleaser and very good at my job. Inwardly I was becoming sad and lost.
How to improve self esteem? Change your circumstances, ask for help!...
With support from family and friends I went back to school, attended regular counselling and rediscovered myself. I separated from my husband and am now a very different person.
I still have to remind myself everyday that I am wonderful.
I still find it hard to accept compliments and sometimes revert to feelings of inferiority especially in the company of people who on the outside appear confident.
I find affirmations and journalling very handy and sometimes wonder where I would be without the reflective process.
I have forgiven myself for feeling that I was a complete failure and by doing so have given myself permission to be beautiful.
It has paid off because people now often tell me I look 10 years younger.
A New Way of Seeing Self-Esteem?
Steve here, and for the last few years (since Oct 2012, actually) I've been seeing (and thinking about) low self-esteem in a different way. Not as a problem to fix, but as feedback to notice (and nothing more). That's right: nothing to fix, everything to notice. And all this became obvious to me after being introduced to the Three Principles behind life (in Oct 2012).
I created a free 1-page Self-Esteem Guide that explains more, anyway. You can read about it here (NO EMAIL REQUIRED) - SMNash.com/self-esteem-guide/
Thank you - Steve