"Stories" from the Collective (YOU)

Low Self Esteem Due to My Husband

by Anon

My symptoms of low self esteem are when I allow others to walk all over me...

I was married to a man who constantly told me I was too fat, not sexy enough, lousy in bed, and wore dowdy clothes.

He constantly told me I was a bad wife because my cooking and cleaning skills were not up to scratch.

After my children were born he added that I was a bad mother.

On the outside I became a people pleaser and very good at my job. Inwardly I was becoming sad and lost.

How to improve self esteem? Change your circumstances, ask for help!...

With support from family and friends I went back to school, attended regular counselling and rediscovered myself. I separated from my husband and am now a very different person.

I still have to remind myself everyday that I am wonderful.

I still find it hard to accept compliments and sometimes revert to feelings of inferiority especially in the company of people who on the outside appear confident.

I find affirmations and journalling very handy and sometimes wonder where I would be without the reflective process.

I have forgiven myself for feeling that I was a complete failure and by doing so have given myself permission to be beautiful.

It has paid off because people now often tell me I look 10 years younger.

A New Way of Seeing Self-Esteem?

Steve here, and for the last few years (since Oct 2012, actually) I've been seeing (and thinking about) low self-esteem in a different way. Not as a problem to fix, but as feedback to notice (and nothing more). That's right: nothing to fix, everything to notice. And all this became obvious to me after being introduced to the Three Principles behind life (in Oct 2012).

I created a free 1-page Self-Esteem Guide that explains more, anyway. You can read about it here (NO EMAIL REQUIRED) - SMNash.com/self-esteem-guide/

Thank you - Steve



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Oct 04, 2010
Thank you for sharing!
by: Steve


Thank you so much for sharing your story.

The courage you have shown to not accept this situation, to start to believe in yourself even though a very significant person in your life clearly did not, is inspiring indeed.

I wish you continued progress on this important journey of self-love, just as I wish this for everyone reading this (including myself).

Thanks again,

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