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How To Ask A Boy Out

by Erica
(United States)

I've got a basic boy-girl question here, but still need the wisdom of a relationship advice forum. So, I like him, but I don't know if he likes me - what should I do?...

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What should I do next?

I like this guy, and he likes me too but how do I take it to the next level?

He hasn't asked me to go out with him and I don't know if I should ask him. Daneil, that's his name, is kinda shy and isn't good with relationships.

I don't know if I should take control or not because I thought if he liked me he would have ask me out already.




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"Many a man is praised for his reserve and so-called shyness when he is simply too proud to risk making a fool of himself."
-- J. B. Priestley

Ah yes, the dilemma as old as the hills - how do I know if he/she likes me?

Thankfully, a lot of wisdom has built up over the ages and there are now many skills and techniques to put into practice (like understanding body language) to help any woman (or man) KNOW if the person they're interested in is interested in them!

I won't list those techniques here, as - frankly! - I'm unaware of most of 'em, and it's possibly not the real issue.

No, as the quote about relationships suggests, the real issue is 'losing face', getting it wrong, or making a fool of oneself!

Your shy male friend is possibly shy because he DOES like you but isn't sure if you like him! And, guess what, he's afraid of making a fool of himself with you. (Sound familiar?)


The truth about romantic love is that it's a microcosm of ALL the joys of life (and all the pain in life, too), BUT... but you only get access to life, to love, IF YOU TAKE RISKS!

So my advice to you, Erica (or anyone who's struggling with this 'does s/he, doesn't s/he?' question) is take a risk and find out for yourself! It is the ONLY real way to find out, after all...

Good luck (to you both)!



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