"Stories" from the Collective (YOU)

How I Overcame Relationship Breakdown and Found Love

by Gemma

Almost all of us will experience the breakdown of a relationship at some point in our lives. It can make us feel angry, depressed, or even make it difficult to trust anyone else again. Following the breakdown of my marriage 3 years ago, I found myself facing all of these emotions. At that point, and for many months after, I found it difficult to even comprehend the prospect of finding someone new.

Even if you have never faced something as drastic as a divorce, it's likely you have experienced arguments and problems which have put a strain on your relationship. One thing that I have learnt is that communication is crucial. With strong communication comes the ability to listen to each other and effectively work through any issues which arise. It's becoming ever more difficult in the fast- paced lives we live in, with the distractions of work and technology making it even harder to find the time for one another.

However, one good thing that came out of my relationship breakdown was that I learned from the experience. I now realise that we weren't communicating effectively and that's something which I definitely took into my new relationship.

I have been engaged to Sam for just over a year now and have never been happier. How I realised that the time was right to start a new relationship is something of an unusual story. A friend recommended that I try a psychic reading at TheCircle. Although I was initially sceptical I decided to give it a go and was pleasantly surprised. Although the reader didn't tell me I was going to meet someone tall, dark and handsome, she did make me feel more positive about my relationship situation. By providing me with insight into the future, she made me realise there wasn't going to be a repeat of the pain I had previously suffered.

With my newfound confidence came the desire to get out there and meet new people. I decided to take up an evening class and was more open to accepting invitations to social events. It wasn't long before I met Sam at the housewarming party of a mutual friend. Although I was anxious about beginning a new relationship, by recognising the failings of my last marriage, I could tell that things were different this time.

My advice would be to try not to dwell on the negative experiences of the past, but to learn from them. Relationships are rarely perfect but making sure you take the time listen to one another is a crucial part of smoothing over any problems you may encounter. And, if you are still looking for love, the best thing to do is to keep an open mind and be patient and love is likely to follow.

Gemma is a freelance writer from the UK who has been with her fiancé for just over a year with a wedding date planned for next summer! She loves to write so that she can advise people on their relationship problems and hopes that others can learn from her experiences.

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