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Feelings For My Ex

by Anon

My relationship question is this: why am I still thinking about my first love, when our 'not so great' relationship ended 3 years ago, and am I right to be getting married to my wonderful new man despite those thoughts...?

QUESTION: I'm Confused About Feelings For My Ex - Please Help!...



It's been almost 3 years since my first love and I broke up. We had been together for 10 years, from a very young age. We had trust issues and we fought a lot because of it, then eventually we just grew further and further apart.

It wasn't a healthy relationship that's for sure.

Fast forward to about a year after this break up, when I met a wonderful man. I know I will never have any trust issues with this new man and it's the best feeling ever.

So we got engaged last Fall after being together a little over a year. I felt like I was the happiest girl in the world. And I thought that by now I would be completely over my first love, but I still catch myself thinking about my ex- on almost a daily basis.

I'm afraid that I'm not ever going to be able to get him out of my mind, and I feel it wouldn't be fair to my fiance if we get married.

What should I do?


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