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Depressed and Negative...

by M
(New York, USA)

In short, my low self esteem symptoms look like this:

  • Depression and negative tapes in my head.
  • Not forgiving myself for making a mistake.
  • I'm easily angered and frustrated.
  • I want to sleep too much...

My low self-esteem comes from my childhood. I often heard my mother say "I can't wait. When you are 18 you are on your own." She often called all of us worthless and good for nothing.

There were few hugs and no words of love or support.

Some of us were too fat, others stupid. I could go on and on but don't like to dwell on the negativity of the past any longer. Hearing a lot of that when you are young, takes a lot of therapy to overcome!

Thank you so much, M, for being brave enough to share these low self esteem signs - recognition is the first part of the battle to make positive changes in yourself, to boost your self-esteem.

Comments for Depressed and Negative...

Feb 28, 2012
Power of Your Subconscious Mind
by: Dr. Damon Sprock

We have beneath our conscious mind a subconscious storehouse of knowledge. This vault is extremely vast and contains all the data available in the physical universe, as a result of its connection to the universal grid of God consciousness that permeates our entire existence. The subconscious mind is our quantum connection to God consciousness.

To gain control of the subconscious memory bank is to enhance one's mental capacity, immensely.
The subconscious mind can be likened to a computer. Your brain is the hard-drive, and your subconscious mind is the brain’s underlying, mental plane of memory; however, we possess an added element that computers do not, emotion. So here you are, armed with an enormous amount of data and the emotional energy to direct that data in a manner that can evolve you to levels of consciousness never before experienced but no road map to guide you.

Did you realize that your subconscious mind is seven times more powerful than your conscious mind? You have to ask yourself, “Why am I only using 10% of my brain capacity?" Well the answer is that you have not been introduced to a method that allows you to tap the vast storehouse of knowledge which the subconscious mind contains. The conscious mind and subconscious mind work together in perfect harmony with each other.

There are two, dynamic laws which govern the function of the subconscious mind, and they are: The Law of Association and The Law of Repetition. The Law of Association states that, the subconscious mind will absorb into itself, through the assistance of the five senses, all influences from the physical world, and it will be most influenced by picture images.

Picture images allow the subconscious mind to search its memory banks more efficiently and relay the proper data outward to the conscious mind for application. The Law of Repetition states that placing picture images repeatedly before the subconscious mind to absorb will imprint a particular image in the memory banks as the proper data for that specific solution. This is how all mental habits and behavioral decisions are established from the time we are infants.

The two periods of the day when the subconscious is most vulnerable is upon waking in the morning and when retiring at night. At these two times the mind enters into the subconscious state by passing from sleep state to wake state and from wake state to sleep state, respectively. These are excellent opportunities to create pictures expressed with emotion for the subconscious mind to program. Archaic, unwanted, behavior patterns can be replaced with new, workable solutions. What world do you want to live in?

Feb 28, 2012
Be Gentle With Yourself
by: Anonymous

Yes I agree it would take alot of time and effort to recover from such negative conditioning.

Recently my ex partner said something that made me feel very unlovable. It was rubbish, and something that I would be unwise to believe, but the effect is startling - the way the judgement has entered my mind and can make me feel worthless and depressed.

All we can do is remind ourselves that these thoughts are not true and just thoughts, if we try not to feed on them they may have less and less power over us.

I think mindfulness meditation can ba a useful tool to aid us in this process, also and Ho'ponopono Hawaiian healing technique can help to work through the bad feelings.

A spiritual teacher, Eckhart Tollie, has some helpful words of wisdom, you can google him and can buy books, dvds and cds by him.

I wish you luck and all the best to find inner peace, love and acceptance.

I also recommend Eckhart Tolle, and discuss him on this self help author's page

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