"The greatest conflicts are not between two people but between one person and himself."
More Conflict Quotes...
"Our lives improve only when we take chances - and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves" -- Walter Anderson
"The people to fear are not those who disagree with you, but those who disagree with you and are too cowardly to let you know" -- Napoleon Bonaparte
"Conflict cannot survive without your participation." -- Wayne Dyer
What I Wonder...
Listen to my thoughts about this Garth Brooke's inspirational conflict quote in the video below. You'll also discover a bit more about where I live in West Yorkshire (England!) - this time the video location is, ahem, my lovely-smelling(!) bedroom...
(NOTE: Yes, I wrote any captions you see in this video. It's called self-deprecation, and it's mostly a healthy thing (I think!).)
So, as I say in the video, I believe inner conflict is probably more important a problem than any of the other conflicts that exist on planet earth right now.
And those 'other conflicts' would include:
conflicts between countries
conflicts between people in those countries (aka civil war)
conflict in organisations or work-places, and
conflict in relationships and friendships
I'm sure you can think of other conflicts, too.
But I believe that at the root of all, is the conflict of self - the lightness within us versus the darkness (and that that we never want to acknowledge).
What to do about this inner conflict?
Well, the first thing to do with any problem, or 'situation' is to recognise that it exists?
So, YOU HAVE AN INNER CONFLICT GOING ON in your life, right now! I'm betting you a million dollars (not really!) that this is the case!
So, what to do about this conflict now it's recognised? All you can do, I guess, is notice it and acknowledge it and perhaps wonder where it comes from - so you do not keep on surrendering your power to it.
I'm sure this is where the power of meditation becomes useful for many, or doing yoga or doing anything where you can 'take yourself away'. (I'm sure any form of anger management, for example, is going to help you with your inner conflict, too - to a degree!)
Please note, though, that this is not a 'battle' with your inner conflict, because all that translates to is another type of conflict.
Instead, it's a process of knowing, or watching when the conflict arises, surges, and expresses itself...
Other things to do?
Well, Cristina Diaz's handbook from Conflict to Calm may well be able to help. It covers many calming and watching techniques, and even though its focus is conflict at work, as I've said above I believe that most conflict stems from inner conflict.
So I recommend anyone wrestling with conflict issues check out Cris's handbook. (It's a short read too, and only costs £20 - about US$30. And it includes a small book of conflict quotes written by yours truly! :-) )