Choosing the Right Man
(Charleston, SC, U.S.A.)
Hmm, the online relationship advice I'm looking for is simply to get help with a (nice) choice I have to make, fairly soon: which man is for me? Can you help?...
QUESTION: How do I pick the man that is right for me?MORE FROM Samantha...
I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea here. I am seeing 3 men right now and I'm not sleeping with any of them. They all know I'm talking to other men and don't like it but are dealing with it. I've told them they can do the same.
I'm 25 years old and I really want to find the guy I'm going to spend my life with. I've struggled in love with so many failed relationships and I want to settle down and have a family. I just can't figure out which one is best. Choice 1 is my ex of a year and a half
. He's 24 and severely ADHD and a mess. He's so funny and we have a lot of chemistry but he also has anger problems and yells a lot. He'd rather smoke weed and play video games with his friends than make me feel like I'm a priority.
He's a good guy, family oriented and takes care of me when we go out but still has a lot of growing up to do. I also actually love him.Choice 2 is a man that I met off of Match.com
. Hes 32 and a supervisor in the AirForce. He owns a house, has a dog, two cars, in great shape, and is looking for someone to settle down with.
He seems perfect. However, I don't agree with a lot of his politics, he seems more interested in my body and being all over me than who I am as a person. We like each other but i feel that we lack a certain depth... I could just be crazy.Choice 3 is a guy that is full American Indian
. I'm White and American Indian mixed. We have that in common and we can relate to each other. He's 27 and lives in a trailer in the country. He has a daughter and pays his child support. He doesn't have a lot of money and he's not super established. But for some reason we have this chemistry and bond already that I cant explain.
He could just be a smooth talker and I'm falling for it.
He says I cant give you a big house or a fancy car but I can be loyal to you and make you happy and try to be a better man everyday than I was the day before.
I'm very confused and I don't want any regrets! Help!