So you can see assertiveness (or any other form of effective communication) requires that you understand how this so-called secret language works too.
Thankfully, for both you and I, there are many great resources on this subject. And I've included a few of them below - e.g. some YouTube videos on assertiveness, my own thoughts about this secret language, and a few more resources.
And, of course, if you have any tips on reading body language please do share them. So, without further ado, I shall begin... (Er, would you mind uncrossing those arms first! Thanks.)
"Body talk" - and how it works - has not always been my strong point! Let me admit that, right now. And this is so much the case so that when I was in my twenties, a good woman friend of mine at the time - Liza - bought me a book on the subject for Christmas - completely out of the blue!
She might as well have bought me some soap and pointed me in the direction of a bathroom - such was her not-so-subtle communication to me! (By the way, I shower every day - promise! Just in case you were wondering...)
As to me, I had no idea that I was clueless in the language body signs department. Still, like you, I can learn. And have done so, over the years.
So I now know the following about this oh-so-important skill:
I appreciate the above is a little 'simplistic'. I will do better, soon, I promise! And, no, I do not have my fingers crossed behind my back as I write this!
Anyway, do let me know what you think about the secret language - use the contact us page! Or, if you like, we can do a secret handshake, whilst standing on one foot! I'll leave it up to you!
Thank goodness for YouTube, eh! You can pretty much guarantee videos on any subject - that includes the art of reading body language. I've picked 2 different examples below, that show via models/actors how these signs look in action. Take it away, YouTube...