Why This and Why Me?
After my on-off relationship with a man who I loved one minute and hated the next, I've now found a man who treats me like the princess I am. But he's too clingy, so I've dumped him, but he won't go away. Help!...
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QUESTION: How Did I End Up In This Position?... MORE FROM Anon...
Well, it started with my ex. He is one of those guys that you just love sometimes and just hate the next minute. Our relationship was an on and off status most of the time.
So after our last break up, I was looking for affection and someone to lean on. So my current boyfriend was there for me. He told me how much he would care for me, treat me like the princess I am, and buy me whatever - as where my ex would care ABOUT me (not for), treat me like I'm his bitch, and have me buy him stuff.
I know I was in a controlling relationship. And I'm glad I'm out of it. But, my current boyfriend is clingy. So I broke up with him yesterday because I couldn't take it no more.
Now, they're both in my life. And my current boyfriend (I should stop saying boyfriend) is still calling me his "love" and his "fiancee".
But my ex is treating me a lot better since he has a new girlfriend.
So, my question to you is this: how did I end up into this position - where I am getting smothered by this boy? And no, I'm not leading him on in any way. (He calls me "love", I just say "what?" Not "yes, my love?" Like I would usually do.)
So, what can I do to just get out of this tight spot?
Thank youu :)
STEVE'S ANSWER"Maxim for life: You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you."
-- Wayne Dyer
That's pretty much all I have to say, here, really. And it's not just relevant to this relationship question, or any question, it's a fact of life for all of us.
Anyone else help anon with her clingy boyfriend problem?
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(Dec 1st, 2015)