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Low Self Confidence

"Breathe well, move well, and speak well" so says Joe Czarnecki in his article below. This is how Joe thinks you can boost your self-confidence, anyway - feel good in your own body! Joe explains more below.

As for me, I know how self-defeating low self confidence can be; how important it is to be confident instead. I have no tips for how my lack of self confidence disappeared - how I boosted self-confidence - and I am still not 'cured' of low confidence all of the time. I just know I prefer life (and living) having self-confidence.

As for you? Why don't you tell me how you boosted your self-confidence or even if you still suffer from low self confidence - sometimes it really is good to talk! Contact us here!

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Low self confidence - what I say...

I've always thought of self-confidence as arbitrary! That is, people who are self-confident have no more reason to be self-confident than those who are low in self confidence - they just are confident! And that is all that matters, really, when it comes to confidence - being confident. You can always justify feeling good about yourself (or bad about yourself) if you try hard enough - it's called having a positive attitude. (For example, my very first serous girlfriend told me I was a good kisser, so that's what I believe and have believed ever since, despite the evidence to the contrary sometimes. Lol.)

I've always thought confidence was arbitrary, because I've always suffered from low self confidence! :-(

Yes, I have had my moments of being confident but they have been all too fleeting, until recently. Now, I just want to be confident - I like how it feels inside of me; I like how people respond to me; and I like meeting other self-confident people too - it's no longer intimidating.

And remember, self-confidence is not about being better than someone else, it's about feeling good about yourself. And, as this self-confidence quote says:

"Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are."
-- Malcolm S. Forbes

So I say "No!" to low self confidence and "Yes!" to improving self confidence! :-) It's not easy to get self confidence but it is possible, and it is definitely worth it! I know, from first hand experience - I bet you have some low self confidence feedback, too!

I have no tips myself to building self confidence myself - not yet, anyway - I'm just glad my days of low self confidence are behind me!

Yes, how to boost self confidence is not an easy question to answer, but Joe Czarnecki's article will certainly help. Enjoy...

Three Simple Tips That Stop Low Self Confidence

Low self confidence - what Joe Czarnecki has to say...

Low self confidence affects everyone at different times of one's life. Self confidence is a trait that is needed in order for us to accomplish our daily goals and achieve success in all areas of life. It is expected that one may experience short time periods of low self confidence much like how professional athletes encounter a slump from time to time. However, prolonged periods of low self confidence can be a serious problem to one's physical and mental health.

Low self confidence can at times feel like an impossible task to overcome. The reality is that we are usually only a few simple steps and practices away from achieving high levels of true confidence and poise. There are many practical tips one might use to solve their own low self confidence problem. I will introduce three simple steps that are easy to understand and building blocks for establishing self confidence.

The first tip is proper breathing. The importance of breathing is crucial to developing self confidence. I am referring to methodical breathing that gives one a sense of physical balance. We all breathe all the time even though we are rarely aware of it. That is why we do not know how to increase the power and capacity of our lungs.

One simple exercise on breathing consists of standing straight with your head turned slightly back. Fill your lungs with air by taking a deep breath and count up to ten before exhaling powerfully. As you exhale, maintain a continuous low hum and be free of any trembling. The purpose of this exercise is to instantaneously provide you with a stimulus before an important encounter. This exercise should be performed twice a day at a minimum of five minutes per session. This deep breathing will develop your lungs over time. You will notice yourself having much less occurrences of being out of breathe and also much more control when you are affected by emotion that accelerates your senses.

The second tip is maintaining effective physical motion. Many people fear that others will ridicule them because of the awkwardness of their physical movements. Other people are embarrassed because of clumsiness in which they cover themselves with ridicule. They then think and focus on this in their minds which causes further constraint in their gestures and mannerisms.

It is very simple to cure this condition. You must make up your mind to conquer this weakness by acquiring ease in all of your movements. Awkwardness occurs only in public. We are never embarrassed alone in the privacy of our home. Like all things, repetition of any act will diminish the emotion that gives rise to it. That is why consistent physical exercises are needed to reprogram one's outlook on this problem.

You can practice this tip after your breathing exercises. The object is to acquire an easy, relaxed carriage from repetition. One exercise to achieve this is as follows. Expand your chest as far as possible while throwing back your head and extending your arms. Use smooth movements not jerky ones. Try to extend yourself further every time you perform this exercise. As you do this, hollow out the back so it becomes a perfect arch. Next one should walk through a room and focus on keeping their steps of even length and body erect.

The focus of this tip is to remove all jerky and abrupt movements which portray timidity. You will eventually feel relaxed in public and move in a very slow and controlled fashion. This tip alone can increase one's self worth dramatically.

The third tip is to practice speaking. A forceful speech will always convince an audience. Eloquence is one of the true gifts of self confidence. One major reason for this is that one's mind is always fixed upon the object he or she wishes to attain by arguments. This eliminates all unnecessary wandering of thoughts.

Clearness of conception will be reflected and poise will manifest itself in someone who no longer feels himself to be the object of laughter or mockery. In addition to mental focus, there is a distinct physical exercise that can give you powerful speech.

Open your mouth as wide as possible and then shut it rapidly. Open it once more to its fullest extent and then shut it to a point where the jaw fatigues. This exercise is used to combat "heavy jaw". This is a feeling in your jaw that restricts pronunciation of words and causes people to hesitate or feel uncertain about their speech patterns. In addition to this exercise, practice reciting long sentences containing difficult consonants. This will give you the self confidence to speak more fluidly in public.

Begin practicing these tips right away. Remember to focus on your breathing, your posture and your speaking. These tips are simple to apply and integrate in to your daily life

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Joe Czarnecki is an entrepreneur who specializes in sales and business development in the automobile and e-commerce industries. He is a Finance Manager for a Fortune 300 company and owner of a growing niche based e-commerce Company. Joe attributes his success to over 10 years of constant education, experience and faith. To become a member of Joe’s newsletter on all areas of self confidence, visit him at http://www.conquerconfidence.com .

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