How Do We Really Develop?
Or, can you ever read too many Self Help Books? One view...
My personal story is involved with studying major religions of the world, in depth use of meditation techniques, reading psychology, sociology and self help related materials most of my life. That said, I feel that I have been a productive member of society: I've tried different businesses start ups, held several private and public jobs. I've treated the public and private consumers the best I could and with ultimate respect. Of course, I'm always looking to try new things.
I can remember questioning at times during particular decades of growth, "Am I reading too much self help?"
But in retrospect, and being over 60 years of age, I think the answer is NO
I don't believe anyone can get enough of learning how to improve themselves and their lives.
I believe many people confuse "reading about self help" with a subjective opinion of what it means to be "helped". Since there are many in the self help field (as in other fields) who have written books on self help and prospered, there is almost this unwritten code that somehow reading volumes about self help means that one day you should wake up perfected and get a business and become "successful".
Let's not forget that many are reading for particular problems... co-dependency, exploitation, feelings of inadequacy, depression, obsessive compulsive disorders and on and on.
Not everyone is reading just to become "successful" or confident enough to speak in the public or make lots of money.
I think each individual case is different
. There is no blanket determination of how much is too much. Each individual will at some point discover what they must do for themselves.
I think if we label those who "read too much self help", one could form another extension in thinking that authors who write about self help books have some flaw (because there are so many books on the subject) My major concern
is the quality of materials on self help
. Some subjects have been rehashed to death. However, that said, there are many authors
who are bringing fresh solutions to old problems. Unfortunately, one may have to read many books to get to the good ones. But that is not an earth shattering thing.
So I think one should be careful branding the self help field as a vocational interest, or otherwise, as a sign of a person who is not growing. Just my two cents.
Let's remember that people have their own time for change and the point is that they are learning more about themselves and others and what it takes to change.
Thank you for this website, Steve
Thank YOU, Sandy, for all YOUR contributions to this website. Always welcome hearing your views! I shall on what you say here below...