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Finding Happiness

Are you looking for happiness? You want to know how to find happiness do you, and learn the secret of happiness, well you've come to the right place.

Me, Miami Phillips (and Maze) are going to show you how to find happiness right here on this very web page about happiness. But it'll cost you, for sure, because the key to happiness is understanding and accepting that:

• happiness is a choice

Can you pay that price? Can you really accept that somewhat clichéd statement about happiness? Or is seeking happiness more important than actually being happy?

Hmm. Finding happiness seems to provide the odd dilemma, doesn't it! So that's why I brought Miami Phillips along as he's written an article called 'Find happiness by looking inside' that provides several tips for happiness, keys to success as it were.

So, what is happiness? Well, let's see if Me, Miami and Maze can explain. And, of course, your views on finding happiness are most welcome too - contact us here, thanks!

Finding happiness - what I say...

The first thing I have to say is that Miami Phillips has written an outstanding article about finding happiness. It makes me happy just to read it. :-) Yes, it gets my vote - thank you Miami for sharing your wisdom with us all. (Now if I can just get Miami to read this... :-) )

Okay, Miami starts by talking about a flawed definition of happiness, namely: "[happiness is] the absence of an opposite emotion whether it is pain, sadness or something else". I agree with Miami (and Maze - see below), that there can be no joy without pain even in a happy life. "If you base your happiness on external circumstances, you will continuously fail to find happiness." Yes, yes, yes, Miami, I completely agree with you! (And I like the fact that I agree with Miami as he is one smart self-help cookie - check out his Self Improvement Lounge, to see just how smart and hardworking he is.)

That's not to say that I haven't tried to pursue happiness - usually (in the past) via a better-looking girlfriend (shallow, moi? lol - yes I used to be Mr. Low Self Esteem) - that I haven't tried to find happiness. I now realise that happiness just is (or it isn't) - yes, happiness is as simple a choice as that to make about your life.

And even when times are hard - and, in life, there will always be occasional hard times! - you can still be happy.

Finding happiness is simply making an active choice to be happy - that's what I believe.

Yes, this is simple to say and not simple to do I admit! For example, I have not lived a very happy life for the most part. Why so unhappy? No real reason, really - I just wasn't happy, in many of the ways that Miami talks about in his article below. And now? Now, I feel good most of the time. Yes, I believe I have found happiness. (Psst, it's in my pocket, shall I show you? ;-).)

Anyway, that's what I believe about finding happiness - how about you? What do you think finding happiness is all about - do let me know?

Miami Phillips time...

Find Happiness By Looking Inside

Finding happiness - what Miami Phillips has to say...

"If I could only figure this out, I think I could find happiness." That was the comment a close friend made during a recent conversation. This is not the first time, nor will it be the last that I hear this statement.

Many people believe that finding happiness is based on finding something else they want. In my experience as a personal coach, no one has ever found long term happiness by achieving another goal. Ultimately, to find happiness is to look within.

In other words, happiness is an inside job. The key to finding happiness is to understand that happiness is a choice and not the result. If happiness can be found as the result of an acquisition, meeting a goal, or having anything, then a person's happiness will always be subject to something else.

An important and fundamental truth to remember is that one definition of happiness is simply the absence of an opposite emotion whether it is pain, sadness or something else. If the opposite emotions are never experienced then happiness can never be experienced either. Just as bad times allow you to appreciate good times, and hunger allows you to appreciate food, sadness allows you to appreciate and experience happiness.

We can also define happiness as enjoying, showing, or marked by pleasure, satisfaction or joy.

If you ask most people what happiness means you will probably hear "I'll be happy when ". When I get that promotion, I'll be happy. I'll be happy when I meet the person of my dreams. If I had one million dollars, I'd be happy.

These, and all the other "if I had" scenarios are following the same reasoning; that happiness is based on external circumstances.

If you base your happiness on external circumstances, you will continuously fail to find happiness. There will always, always be another external circumstance. There will always be another dollar, another job, another house, or another partner. Better, more, else.

To break this vicious cycle, we must find our happiness somewhere else. That somewhere else is within. We have been given everything we need to be happy.

One of the ways to allow yourself to choose happiness is to understand life is perfect. Although this subject is worthy of it's own article, life is perfect because we create it with our choices. Since we can create life, how much better can it get?

When we can accept that life is perfect as it is and that our lives are the sum total of everything that has happened to this instant, only then can we accept the joy and happiness we deserve.

I realize that this concept is very difficult for some to accept. However, the alternative to being happy now is to spend the rest of our lives seeking happiness as if happiness was an item to be bought or found.

It's not. Just remember the saying - Don't worry - be happy!

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Happiness is elusive but can be found. Start with the free tools available at the blog: http://www.miamiphillips.com

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Maze's 'Joy and Pain'

Finding happiness - what Frankie Beverly and Maze have to to say...

I'm sorry, I couldn't resist including this Maze video I found on YouTube. Reminds me of the joy and pain of my first love! Ahhhh.

Finding happiness? I think you can find it in the audience of this Maze concert, ladies and gentlemen, I really do...

Great song! Thank you, Maze - thank you!

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