You want to know how to find happiness
do you, and learn the secret of happiness, well you've come to the right place.
Me,
Miami Phillips (and Maze) are going to show you how to find happiness right here
on this very web page about happiness.
But it'll cost you, for sure, because
the key to happiness is understanding and accepting that:
Happiness
is a choice!
Can you pay that price?
Can
you really accept that somewhat clichéd statement about happiness?
Or
is seeking happiness more important than actually being happy?
Hmm.
Finding happiness seems to provide the odd dilemma, doesn't it! So that's why
I brought Miami Phillips along as he's written an article called 'Find happiness
by looking inside' that provides several tips for happiness, keys to success
as it were.
So, what is happiness?
Well, let's see if Me, Miami and Maze can explain. And, of course, your views
on finding happiness are most welcome too - contact
us here, thanks!
Finding happiness - what I say...
The
first thing I have to say is that Miami Phillips has written an outstanding article
about finding happiness. It makes me happy just to read it. :-) Yes, it gets my
vote - thank you Miami for sharing your wisdom with us all. (Now if I can just
get Miami to read this... :-) )
Okay, Miami starts by talking about a flawed
definition of happiness, namely: "[happiness is] the absence of an opposite
emotion whether it is pain, sadness or something else".
I agree with
Miami (and Maze
- see below), that there can be no joy without pain even in a happy life.
"If you base your happiness on external circumstances, you will continuously
fail to find happiness." Yes, yes, yes, Miami, I completely agree with you!
(And I like the fact that I agree with Miami as he is one smart self-help cookie!)
That's
not to say that I haven't tried to pursue
happiness, that I haven't tried to find happiness - usually (in the past)
via a better-looking girlfriend! (Shallow, moi? Yes, I used to be Mr.
Low Self Esteem.) I now realise that happiness just is (or it isn't)
- yes, happiness is as simple a choice as that to make about your life. In fact,
I believe that happiness
is a habit!
So even when times are hard - and, in life, there will always
be occasional hard times! - you can still be happy.
Finding happiness is
simply making an active choice to be happy - that's what I believe.
Yes,
this is simple to say and not simple to do I admit! For example, I have not
lived a very happy life for the most part. Why so unhappy? No real
reason, really - I just wasn't happy, in many of the ways that Miami talks
about in his article below. And now? Now, I feel good most of the time.
Yes,
I believe I have found happiness. (Psst, it's in my pocket, shall I show you?
;-).)
Anyway, that's what I believe about finding happiness - how about
you? What do you think? Do let me know!
Miami
Phillips time...
Find Happiness By Looking Inside
Finding
happiness - what Miami Phillips has to say...
"If I could only figure
this out, I think I could find happiness." That was the comment a close friend
made during a recent conversation. This is not the first time, nor will it be
the last that I hear this statement.
Many people believe that finding happiness
is based on finding something else they want. In my experience as a personal coach,
no one has ever found long term happiness by achieving another goal. Ultimately,
to find happiness is to look within.
In other words, happiness is an
inside job. The key to finding happiness is to understand that happiness is a
choice and not the result. If happiness can be found as the result of an acquisition,
meeting a goal, or having anything, then a person's happiness will always be subject
to something else.
An important and fundamental truth to remember is that
one definition of happiness is simply the absence of an opposite emotion whether
it is pain, sadness or something else. If the opposite emotions are never experienced
then happiness can never be experienced either. Just as bad times allow you
to appreciate good times, and hunger allows you to appreciate food, sadness allows
you to appreciate and experience happiness.
We can also define happiness
as enjoying, showing, or marked by pleasure, satisfaction or joy.
If you
ask most people what happiness means you will probably hear "I'll be happy
when ". When I get that promotion, I'll be happy. I'll be happy when
I meet the person of my dreams. If I had one million dollars, I'd be happy.
These,
and all the other "if I had" scenarios are following the same reasoning;
that happiness is based on external circumstances.
If you base your happiness
on external circumstances, you will continuously fail to find happiness. There
will always, always be another external circumstance. There will always be another
dollar, another job, another house, or another partner. Better, more, else.
To
break this vicious cycle, we must find our happiness somewhere else. That somewhere
else is within. We have been given everything we need to be happy.
One of
the ways to allow yourself to choose happiness is to understand life is perfect.
Although this subject is worthy of it's own article, life is perfect because we
create it with our choices. Since we can create life, how much better can it get?
When
we can accept that life is perfect as it is and that our lives are the sum
total of everything that has happened to this instant, only then can we accept
the joy and happiness we deserve.
I realize that this concept is very difficult
for some to accept. However, the alternative to being happy now is to spend the
rest of our lives seeking happiness as if happiness was an item to be bought or
found.
It's not. Just remember the saying - Don't worry - be happy!
---------------------------------------------------- Happiness is elusive but can be found.
Start with the free tools available at the blog: http://www.miamiphillips.com
Finding happiness - what Frankie Beverly and Maze have to to say...
I'm
sorry, I couldn't resist including this Maze video I found on. Reminds me of the
joy and pain of my first love! Ahhhh. (The song is called Joy and Pain, by the
way!)
Finding happiness? I think you can find it in the audience
of this Maze concert, ladies and gentlemen, I really do...
Great song! Thank you, Maze - thank you!
Finding
happiness - what these recommended resources have to to say...
Can
you look for happiness in meditation? You probably can. A quiet mind allows
you to see life as it truly is. It allows you to see love. It allows you to show
gratitude. Yes, I think meditation is one way of looking for happiness.
(If
you're new to meditation then I can recommend this free
meditation ecourse. It shows you how to quiet the mind, supercharge your
energy and reveals health and happiness secrets too! Not bad for free, really!
:-)
Can happiness be found in a book? Well, probably not,
but the wisdom inside that book may well show you how to find happiness in yourself.
Anyway, the books listed below are the most popular books on happiness right now
at Amazon.com...
