a tasty, well-prepared meal with your hands tied behind your back:
takes much longer for you to eat the meal,
You most likely make a mess,
And you will probably never ever want to eat again (even though it's
necessary for your continued growth).
Well, you can kind of see where
I'm coming from there. (I hope.) If not, this is how this fear can also be summarised:
"Success fear is real! And it makes achieving
real success difficult and unlikely"
This page (with YouTube video) explains more, and I also give some success fear examples too... It also provides you with recommended resources as to how to deal with this fear.
Of Fear Of Success
fear - what I say...
Oh boy, I've been looking forward to talking about
this fear almost since I had the idea for this website in February 2008 (read
the diary of how I came to build this website, should you be interested). I mean, how can anyone fear 'success'?
It just sounds crazy, doesn't it, and yet... success fear is very real.
me give you some 'success fear' examples:
the perpetual dieter who loses pounds and pounds of weight (success!) only to
put it all on again straight afterwards (success fear!)
the man who, after a few months of diligence on the internet dating site, meets
a suitable woman (success!) only for him to find fault with this woman within
weeks, and for him to then have to start all over again (success fear or fear of intimacy!)
There's the business owner who creates their own business (success!)
but doesn't let it grow, through lack of vision or ambition (success fear!) -
this is one (of many) reasons why people struggle to succeed
with their home business.
The odd thing about these examples
is that, quite often, it looks like there is no fear of being successful, just
success (i.e. the dating man convinces himself that he has successfully weeded
out yet another 'unsuitable')
Okay, let's get a few things straight! Fear
FEAR OF CHANGE
didn't coin that piece of wisdom (alas) - I read it somewhere (and I'll remember
where, soon), but it's true nevertheless.
of success is fear of change!"
So what's the answer?
Well, as always the solution to any problem comes from recognising
that you have the problem in the first place. Then it's a matter of taking the necessary action (see recommended resources below, for one such action you could take). Simple, really!
Whist this page is part of a series of pages on success, it could also be part
of a series of pages on fear, too!)
Anyway, more of my thoughts follow (on YouTube)...
success fear is probably one of the things that separates 'winners' (success-types) from 'losers'. And there are many ways to challenge what limits us, for sure, but one recommended way is for us to quite literally reprogram ourselves - and self-hypnosis is a great way of doing just that!