|Do you suffer from fear of intimacy. Find out, below...|
Hey, did you know?...
"Learn by teaching", they say, and
What is... Fear of Intimacy?
Fear of emotional intimacy!
And what can you do about it, anyway?...
Fear of intimacy
What I say...
Hmm, this is perhaps one of the most important pages on SelfHelpCollective.com, I feel. And I have a lot to say on the subject, but where to begin. I know, in true 'non-intimate'-style let me begin with the words of others:
But how do you know if you've got this fear, and what do you if you have?
Acts of Intimacy
Hmm, well let me share with you what I consider to be acts of intimacy. Then imagine yourself doing such an 'act of intimacy' and see how you feel.
Overcoming Fear of Intimacy
As with overcoming any fear you really must know that you have the fear in the first place. And, contrary to popular belief, this intimacy fear can be suffered equally by both men and women.
(Yes, fear of intimacy may play itself out differently in both men and women - for example, keeping women at arm's length emotionally (for men) and choosing to be with the wrong men (for women) - but both sexes suffer from this most common fear, make no mistake!)
And then, unoriginal as it sounds, you must face your intimacy fear. And you do that by knowing what you resist - for example, being open with someone, letting them see 'into' you - and you must desist from resisting, simple as that.
A Personal Example...
Let me say to you right now that fear of intimacy is endemic! MOST of us suffer from this fear much more than we realise. For sure there are sensible reasons to keep ourselves emotionally 'safe', but the safety mechanisms most of us have in place are far too s. Which is another way of me saying that intimacy fear can be overcome in oh so many places in our lives, in my life...
How I do intimacy:
It's all about knowing you have intimacy issues, and then challenging yourself to let those issues dissolve - to let people see you.
It Takes Courage!
Make no mistake though, this overcoming fear of intimacy - this leap into the 'dark' - takes courage, and lots of it. Your instincts will always be to turn away, to close down, to remove yourself from 'danger'. But it's worth it, it really is, overcoming this fear, as the benefits to your life WILL reveal:
Which life would you prefer? A shrunken, shrivelled life, or an expanded and open one? Answers on a postcard, p-lease...
Fear of intimacy - what YouTube has to say...
Welcome to video 1 (of 2) of The Fear Chronicles, with lots of talking heads talking about fear, especially one of the most common fears, intimacy fear.
And you know, watching these videos - this is video 2 (of 2) of The Fear Chronicles - I've decided that I DO NOT always fear intimacy, either - I, too, crave it sometimes! Anyway, there are a lot of wise heads here. Enjoy...
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