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"How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes
of it." Marcus Aurelius said these wise words nearly two thousand
years ago. He knew the importance of anger control, of dealing with anger. And
I think you do too! That's why you're here! To read what Abhishek
Agarwal has to say about how to control anger in his article. And to read
about my thoughts on expressing anger, too! Of course, your
thoughts on anger are welcome too! Always. And you'll find some recommended
further reading at the bottom of this page, too. Enjoy...
Controlling anger - what I say...Hmm, I wish I could tell you
that I have all the answers for how I control anger but I don't. In many ways
I am still like Dave Buznik (played by Adam Sandler) in the Anger
Management movie whereby I just let things (that anger me) 'go'. But I am
not dealing with my anger and I am not expressing anger - it's stays inside of
me, waiting for an opportunity to reveal itself... HORRIBLY! (And you only
have to read my anger management story titled, "No,
I Do NOT Want To Play Cards" to see how bad I can be at controlling anger.
NOTE: If you have an anger-mis-management story then I'd love you to share
it with us, too!) Still, I am a big believer in change - I can change,
and so can you can you! Even writing these pages on anger
has helped me. And reading what Abhishek Agarwal has to say (below) has
helped me, too. And Abishek believes dealing with anger is all about expressing
anger, whilst also calming yourself too! As well as learning how to think differently
about the 'problem situation' in the first place. Two things that help,
then, in controlling anger are: - Learning
how to meditate - meditation is a great way to learn how to calm yourself
and to calm your mind.
- Learning
how to forgive - forgiveness is at the heart of effective anger control,
I believe
And that's exactly what I intend to do in 2010 and the
years that follow: meditate and forgive more! And I shall keep you posted,
here, at SelfHelpCollective.com - the home of guru-free self-help! Okay,
let's listen to Abhishek Agarwal as he discusses this 'controlling anger' issue
in more detail...
Managing Anger - 5 Easy Ways To
Control AngerControlling anger - what Abhishek Agarwal has to say...Essentially,
there are three ways on handling anger. These are: - Suppressing
- Expressing, and
- Calming.
Suppressing anger
denotes pinning it down and redirecting it to some other activity. Anger can prove
to be detrimental and therefore by engaging in another pursuit, this undesirable
emotion is lessened and the activity turns out to be productive. Expressing
anger denotes letting go of it in a favorable and not forceful way. As there
are quite a few people who are unable to contain their anger and reroute it into
another channel, expressing it is the best possible way out but it must be made
certain that this anger does not cause harm to others. Calming refers
to managing this emotion from within. In this manner, the physiological reaction
is brought down also. These three ways are the basis from which various
strategies on anger management can be derived. The following are some such strategies:
1. Proper Handling
Anger can give rise to numerous
undesirable consequences such as frustration. This kind is frequently brought
about by problems. Generally, people are of the opinion that there is a key to
every problem. But in reality, this is not so. Rather than exasperatingly trying
to resolve a problem, it is better to concentrate your energies on tackling the
situation. Deciphering anger will not be successful, if you are constantly seeking
an answer. Initiate a process to manage anger by planning, systematizing, and
controlling the situation in a way that produces rich results. 2. Calm
down
Trying to calm things down from inside is a much better method
of handling anger. Straightforward and uncomplicated ways like breathing and picturing
peaceful things would successfully make available a great channel for releasing
anger.
A simple way of going about this is:
Loosen up your shoulders.
Ensure they are not taut. Breathe deeply from your diaphragm. Go over the steps
again, while phrases like 'relax' and 'calm down' run through your mind. Do not
reflect on the probable reason for your anger. See in your mind's eye tranquil
places or comforting experiences.
Doing easy work outs also help
lighten up your mind as well as body. 3. Changing the ambience
Ennui can at times give rise to annoyance and rage. Now, this is on account of
the fact that a schedule is always linked with responsibilities from school, place
of work, or home. Places linked with workloads can sometimes kindle fury and annoyance. In
order to handle anger linked to the environment, changing the ambience would do
a world of good. Going on a holiday or making a trip out of the city that would
bring about a fresh new environment and disregarding any thoughts that tend to
annoy and madden you, would work for your benefit. Take time out, to travel to
places that will soothe and comfort you. You need no go very far. Within your
home, you can retire to a quiet and restful room, or take a brief time-out to
relax and unwind at your own workstation or somewhere close by. What is important
to note is that in order to eliminate annoyance and rage, you should work out
a method or move to a location where such thoughts cease to exist. 4.
Funniness
Funniness or humor can help relax your stretched nerves as
well as that of others. Humor facilitates the reduction of stress experienced
by you. 5. Changing your thoughts
Most people give vent to
their anger by employing unpleasant words, foul language, or any term that can
convey what they are feeling. Now these people would often overlook that there
exists an opportunity to turn things around (in case the origin of anger is disillusionment).
What is of essence is that, so as to take note that there are a number of ways
to manage your anger, you need to change your thinking process together with the
way you perceive things. This will enable you to let go of your anger or annoyance
in a far more productive way. ---------------------------------------------------- Abhishek has
got some great Anger Management
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Anger - 5 Easy Ways To Control Anger
Controlling
anger - what these recommended resources say...And if you need to know
more about controlling anger - dealing with, or expressing your anger - then I
can highly recommend the following resources to you. Make good use of 'em, eh!
;-)
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