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Controlling Anger
-- 5 Ways How!

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"How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it."

Marcus Aurelius said these wise words nearly two thousand years ago.

He knew the importance of anger control, of dealing with anger.

And I think you do too!

That's why you're here!

To read what Abhishek Agarwal has to say about how to control anger in his article.

And to read about my thoughts on expressing anger, too!

Of course, your thoughts on anger are welcome too! Always.

And you'll find some recommended further reading at the bottom of this page, too. Enjoy...




Controlling anger - what I say...

Hmm, I wish I could tell you that I have all the answers for how I control anger but I don't. In many ways I am still like Dave Buznik (played by Adam Sandler) in the Anger Management movie whereby I just let things (that anger me) 'go'. But I am not dealing with my anger and I am not expressing anger - it's stays inside of me, waiting for an opportunity to reveal itself... HORRIBLY!

(And you only have to read my anger management story titled, "No, I Do NOT Want To Play Cards" to see how bad I can be at controlling anger. NOTE: If you have an anger-mis-management story then I'd love you to share it with us, too!)

Still, I am a big believer in change - I can change, and so can you can you!

Even writing these pages on anger has helped me.

And reading what Abhishek Agarwal has to say (below) has helped me, too. And Abishek believes dealing with anger is all about expressing anger, whilst also calming yourself too! As well as learning how to think differently about the 'problem situation' in the first place.

Two things that help, then, in controlling anger are:

  1. Learning how to meditate - meditation is a great way to learn how to calm yourself and to calm your mind.

  2. Learning how to forgive - forgiveness is at the heart of effective anger control, I believe

And that's exactly what I intend to do in 2010 and the years that follow: meditate and forgive more!

And I shall keep you posted, here, at SelfHelpCollective.com - the home of guru-free self-help!

Okay, let's listen to Abhishek Agarwal as he discusses this 'controlling anger' issue in more detail...




Managing Anger - 5 Easy Ways To Control Anger

Controlling anger - what Abhishek Agarwal has to say...

Essentially, there are three ways on handling anger. These are:

  1. Suppressing
  2. Expressing, and
  3. Calming.

Suppressing anger denotes pinning it down and redirecting it to some other activity. Anger can prove to be detrimental and therefore by engaging in another pursuit, this undesirable emotion is lessened and the activity turns out to be productive.

Expressing anger denotes letting go of it in a favorable and not forceful way. As there are quite a few people who are unable to contain their anger and reroute it into another channel, expressing it is the best possible way out but it must be made certain that this anger does not cause harm to others.

Calming refers to managing this emotion from within. In this manner, the physiological reaction is brought down also.

These three ways are the basis from which various strategies on anger management can be derived. The following are some such strategies:

1. Proper Handling
Anger can give rise to numerous undesirable consequences such as frustration. This kind is frequently brought about by problems. Generally, people are of the opinion that there is a key to every problem. But in reality, this is not so. Rather than exasperatingly trying to resolve a problem, it is better to concentrate your energies on tackling the situation. Deciphering anger will not be successful, if you are constantly seeking an answer. Initiate a process to manage anger by planning, systematizing, and controlling the situation in a way that produces rich results.

2. Calm down
Trying to calm things down from inside is a much better method of handling anger. Straightforward and uncomplicated ways like breathing and picturing peaceful things would successfully make available a great channel for releasing anger.

A simple way of going about this is:
Loosen up your shoulders. Ensure they are not taut. Breathe deeply from your diaphragm. Go over the steps again, while phrases like 'relax' and 'calm down' run through your mind. Do not reflect on the probable reason for your anger. See in your mind's eye tranquil places or comforting experiences.

Doing easy work outs also help lighten up your mind as well as body.

3. Changing the ambience
Ennui can at times give rise to annoyance and rage. Now, this is on account of the fact that a schedule is always linked with responsibilities from school, place of work, or home. Places linked with workloads can sometimes kindle fury and annoyance.

In order to handle anger linked to the environment, changing the ambience would do a world of good. Going on a holiday or making a trip out of the city that would bring about a fresh new environment and disregarding any thoughts that tend to annoy and madden you, would work for your benefit. Take time out, to travel to places that will soothe and comfort you. You need no go very far. Within your home, you can retire to a quiet and restful room, or take a brief time-out to relax and unwind at your own workstation or somewhere close by. What is important to note is that in order to eliminate annoyance and rage, you should work out a method or move to a location where such thoughts cease to exist.

4. Funniness
Funniness or humor can help relax your stretched nerves as well as that of others. Humor facilitates the reduction of stress experienced by you.

5. Changing your thoughts
Most people give vent to their anger by employing unpleasant words, foul language, or any term that can convey what they are feeling. Now these people would often overlook that there exists an opportunity to turn things around (in case the origin of anger is disillusionment). What is of essence is that, so as to take note that there are a number of ways to manage your anger, you need to change your thinking process together with the way you perceive things. This will enable you to let go of your anger or annoyance in a far more productive way.

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Article Source: Managing Anger - 5 Easy Ways To Control Anger




Controlling anger - what these recommended resources say...

And if you need to know more about controlling anger - dealing with, or expressing your anger - then I can highly recommend the following resources to you. Make good use of 'em, eh! ;-)




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