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"Stop comparing yourself to others... "Get over it!
"Accept yourself! "Keep a journal! "And set
some goals". Those are the
improving self esteem tips of Mike Jennings (thanks, Mike). Yep, that's
how easy it is to build self esteem! (If only our parents would have told
us how to build self esteem in the beginning. And if only their parents would
have told them. Etc.) Still, whatever your self-esteem levels, you can improve
your self esteem here in Mike's excellent article called, Five Tips To Help You
Boost Your Self-Esteem! Enjoy, and... Do
let us know how you get on with building self esteem
Building
self esteem - what I say...Having low
self esteem is not fun! And I
should know. But how easy is it to raise self esteem? Well, Mike's
article makes building self esteem straightforward with his wise words. Mike tells
it how it is: we're all great human beings, with different strengths and different
weaknesses. And even though we all know that, deep down, it's nice when someone
like Mike comes along and reminds us gently of this truth. Thanks (again), Mike!
:-) So I highly recommend that you read and absorb Mike's words in his building
self esteem article, "Five Tips To Help You Boost Your Self-Esteem"
- I know I will. As to me, how have I gone about developing positive self
esteem? Well... - Over the years I've read several self-help
books to both understand myself and others
- I've taken self-esteem
tests in magazines - mostly out of curiosity, though, and
- I've read
online
self-esteem ecourses by the likes of Dr Joe Rubino
- I've read and tried
to take to heart various self-esteem quotations,
and
- Simply speaking, I've tried to enjoy each and every day, as it comes;
tried to add a bit of 'Oops, missus!' silliness into my life (somehow laughing
at yourself helps! :-) )
I'm not sure if the above have worked completely
in building self esteem in me. But I am getting there and my self-respect
has never been higher. The most important thing I've done, when I really
think about it, is not quitting! So I intend to do as Mike Jennings
suggest and to start a journal, making brief regular entries. (And I'm going to
aim to do this for the month of July (2008) and then I'll review it. I might even
include them on this website at some point.) Oh, and if
you're interested in learning about goal setting then click here! So,
Mike Jennings and building self esteem - a one, two, three, four...
Five
Tips To Help You Boost Your Self-EsteemBuilding self esteem - what Mike
Jennings has to say... Do you feel that you suffer from low self-esteem
and that it affects every area of your life? Abraham Maslow described that
there were two kinds of self-esteem needs. The first is the need for respect from
others and the second is the need for self-respect. Self respect includes a feeling
of confidence, achievement, competence and independence. Respect from others includes
acceptance, appreciation and recognition. Maslow suggests that if these needs
are not fulfilled, a person will feel unconfident, discouraged, weak and inferior. So
how can one improve one's self-esteem? How you feel about yourself can vary from
day to day. * Stop comparing yourself with others We naturally
tend to use others as benchmarks for our own performance, attributes or abilities.
Consequently we often feel that we don't measure up to other people in our own
eyes or are not living up to what we perceive as other people's expectations of
us. There are always going to be people that are better in some way to you but
that is just part of the richness and diversity of life and you will also have
many attributes that thousands of others do not. So concentrate on what
you do have, rather than on what you do not. Does it really matter
what other people think of you? When we are younger we try to fulfill family expectations
but once we are older we should try and live up to our own expectations based
on what we really want out of life. I remind myself often of the saying: "What
other people think of me is none of my business". * Let bygones
be bygones Often we waste time and energy thinking about what has gone
wrong on in the past and let that control our present mood and thoughts. Everyone
makes mistakes and we need to forgive and forget those made against us and move
on. If you hold a grudge against a person you are just giving your power away
to them and letting them control you. Similarly, if you are still blaming
yourself for past mistakes, consider them as lessons that you have learnt from
and move on. Instead, concentrate on your achievements, however
small and every-day, as this will help build your self-esteem. * Accept
yourself as a unique person You are unique - accept yourself as such!
It would be a very boring world if we were all the same, especially if we were
all perfect! So think about what you want in life, not what you think you should
want based on what you think other people expect. It is you living your
life, not them. One way to give yourself a boost is to exercise.
Now this does not have to be strenuous but a good walk 2-3 times a week will help
raise your endorphin levels which are the 'feel-good' hormones. Getting outdoors
and the change in scenery will also help stimulate your thoughts in a positive
way. * Keep a journal Keeping a journal may sound like hard
work but it is a very rewarding experience. You need to update it on a regular
basis but it does not need to be a daily chore. In the front of it, write out
a list of all your positive qualities. Initially you may not think you have many
but you can add to it at later times. However, seeing them written down and reviewing
them each time you write your journal will help reinforce them in your mind. Also
write a list of all your achievements in your journal so that you can review and
add to these over time. In the journal, write about your feelings and perhaps
what triggers your low bouts of self-esteem if it fluctuates. As you work on raising
your self-esteem you will be able to look back through your journal and
see that you are making progress and why there are certain times that
you have a high or low self-esteem. Progress will take time and you may not be
aware that you are making progress if you do not record it in a journal. *
Set some goals If you want changes in your life you need to be specific
about them. The best way to achieve them is to write them down and where better
but in your journal! Studies have shown that you are more likely to achieve
objectives and goals if you write them down and review them on a regular basis.
Be realistic in your goals and the timeframes you set to achieve them by. If you
do not achieve them in time, do not consider that you have failed but re-set the
goal with more achievable parameters. One way to help you achieve
your goals is with visualization. You need to be by yourself in a relaxed
state and visualize yourself as having already achieved the goal. To feel the
feelings and emotions that would go with that achievement. This visualization
process can be enhanced by listening to suitable music which has been specifically
designed for this process. To conclude, better self-esteem is possible for
you if you are willing to take control of your life and thought processes.
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Mike Jennings has a deep personal belief
in the law of attraction and the process of visualization. If you would like some
more information in this area, please visit
this site
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Building
self esteem - what these recommended resources say...
If you're still
in the mood for some more "improving self esteem" resources - to learn
how to build self esteem - then I can recommend the following to you...
- DR
Joe Rubino's TheSelfEsteemSystem.com
You'll find a really useful (and free)
copy of the "7 Steps to Soaring Self-Esteem" by Dr. Joe Rubino. Just
provide your name and email and you'll be listening in minutes.
- Building
self esteem books at @ Amazon.com
and Amazon
UK
Amazon
contains best-selling books on all kinds of self-help subjects including building
self esteem, and is ideal for those who want to really master this topic.
- High
self-esteem
Building self esteem is all well and good, but how high is
healthy? DR Elizabeth Menon has written a great article all about high self esteem
versus healthy self esteem. And If you like the building self esteem
article above you might also like to read
this building self confidence article, too.
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