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"How to build self confidence?" Well, Shannon Columbo
thinks you could... - Stop saying 'should'
- Stop being critical
- Take
time to yourself, and
- Think positively
And she says all of
this in her article called 'Boost Your Self-Confidence: 9 Easy Hints'. And
she goes on to explain how to build self confidence, and why it's so important
to do so. And if that's not enough for your self confidence building, you'll
find more 'how to boost self confidence' resources listed below - yes, the
Self Help Collective does not have all the answers! :-) (We are confident,
though, that you'll return once you've checked them out - oh yes! :-O )
Building
self confidence - what I say...Self-confidence
comes in handy, whether you are looking for a new job, going on a first date,
or joining a club for the first time! I've found self-confidence even more important
with people that already know you, and already have expectations of you - failing
here is worse! It takes confidence to still try to do new things or be somebody
'better' in their eyes. (That's what I think, how
about you?) So it's always good to keep reminding yourself that you
are confident - that's my building self confidence tip - whilst continually
gaining self confidence is also important. (Especially for that particular day
when you go on a first date, start a new job and join a new gym! Phew!
;-)) 2 more building self confidence tips? - Well, you could always
check out how simply changing
your mental habits can boost your self-confidence. (Free resource offered
by Optimindzation.)
- Or, you could take a quick look at some self
confidence tips. (I know, that's cheating! But I cheat so confidently. Don't
I? :-) )
So... Building self confidence? Read on, that's
what I say... :-) PS I think Sharon's building self confidence tip
about taking time for yourself is so important, I really do. Everyone's life would
be better if they just pandered to themselves a little bit more. (Don't
you think?) Anyway...
Boost Your Self-confidence:
9 Easy HintsBuilding self confidence - what Shannon Columbo has to say...Whether
you are looking for a new job or going on a first date, one of the most important
characteristics that will stand you in good stead is your self-confidence. Increase
your self-confidence with these tactics to help you through interviews, meetings,
and more. 1. Stop saying "should" Don't make yourself
feel guilty by thinking about the things that you should have done: if something
is in the past, let it pass. Fretting over it will not improve your situation.
Try using the word "could" instead of "should" for everything.
This way, your actions become your choices, and you are empowered to make decisions.
For instance, "I should mow the lawn," becomes "I could mow the
lawn," which is a much more positive statement. Instead of allowing your
tasks to hold power over you, take power for yourself by actively choosing how
to spend your time. 2. Don't focus on yourself If you are stressed
out in a public situation, consider how the other person must feel. Go out of
your way to make the other person feel comfortable, or introduce two people who
haven't met. Set yourself small tasks. Just having a task to do will make you
feel better. If you are alone and feeling anxious, take a few deep breaths.
You can try various techniques, from meditation to distraction to take your mind
off of you. 3. Set realistic goals Setting goals will help
boost your self-confidence. You want to set goals that are attainable. Choose
something that you can measure, rather than something that is hard to measure
so this way you will have a way to chart your progress. For instance, rather than
saying "I will become an expert on the Victorian period," you could
set yourself the task of reading the complete works of Jane Austen, or you could
sign up for a course at the local university. Chart your progress. Keeping track
of how you are doing will allow you to feel positive about yourself. 4.
Surround yourself with positives If there are things or places in your
life that are bringing you down, avoid them. If there are people in your life
who are constantly negative, it might be time to reconsider your friendship with
these people. You want to surround yourself with people who are optimistic and
caring, people who respect you and value you for who you are. It is easier to
be self-confident when you know you have a network of supportive people around
you. 5. Stop being critical Stop comparing yourself to others
with self-criticism. You will always find something that someone else is better
at. You are an individual, and unlike anyone else, so comparisons are moot. Constant
self-criticism can also turn into cattiness: to make yourself feel better you
might point out flaws in other people. Choosing to focus on your positive
traits and on other people's positive traits will help you gain self-confidence. 6.
Take the time you need Take some time for yourself. Perhaps painting
your nails or polishing your shoes will make you feel that much more empowered.
Take the time to do small things that are often overlooked. This time you spend
will help you gain confidence. It is important to learn that you are worth
making time for. You will never be able to adequately care for another person
until you care for yourself, so take time to unwind and relax. 7. Think
positively If you find yourself thinking negative or critical thoughts,
think "cancel" or "delete." Your mind is like a computer,
and you will be able to erase those negative thought patterns with practice. Then,
once you have pointedly erased that negative thought, replace it with a positive
one. If you were thinking "My thighs are too fat," say, "cancel"
and then, "My thighs are growing thinner every day" or "I love
my body just the way I am." Try saying these nice things to yourself in front
of a mirror. Write down your best traits, abilities, and skills on a piece
of paper. Then when you are feeling down you can come back to this piece of paper
to remember how wonderful you are. You can also write down five or ten things
that you are grateful for each day. Remembering how fortunate we are helps boost
confidence because it helps surround us with the positivity that is required for
true self-confidence. Try visualization to help you with achieving your
goals, and to help you think positively towards a sense of self-confidence. 8.
Reprogram yourself You might hold some beliefs which are limiting to
you. It is time to take these negative thoughts and replace them with positives,
as outlined in the previous point. Here are some thoughts you might need to re-think
(literally!): "I can't do that," "I get scared easily," "They
don't like me." Remember that even confident people get bummed out
sometimes. Having occasional periods of anxiety is completely natural. 9.
Fake it... and Smile! If you don't know how to truly be self-confident,
then just pretend to be self-confident! Smile, too. Just the act of smiling will
release endorphins to the brain, which will eventually make you happy. Acting
confident will help build your confidence for when you truly are confident. Remember:
you are going to be fine. Start building your self-confidence today so that you
can begin leading the lifestyle you deserve.
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Source: http://www.positivearticles.com
Building
self confidence - what You say...So, what do you know about gaining
self confidence? You've done it after all - developed self confidence - no
matter if you still feel you need to build self-confidence it a bit more. Why
not tell us about your own building self confidence
tips, eh! Thanks.
Building self confidence
- what these recommended resources say...You'll find more information
on this important topic of building self confidence. Yes, developing self confidence
is as easy as 1-2-3... :-) - Self
Confidence Course
This is Self Help Collective's 7-part self confidence
course delivered by email. It's a quick course to take, covers the basics of self-confidence,
and is proving popular
- Improving
Self Confidence by Improving Your Mind Power - Optimindzation
Provides
free access to a scientific 'discovery' that will increase your mental abilities
and IQ. Offers increased self-confidence with your eyes closed, in fact - which
sounds like it's worth investigating, to say the least.
- Improve
your Self Confidence with Positive Self Talk
Another quick-to read article
that hits home.
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