What is Assertiveness?

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"The world would be a better place if people were more assertive."

Who said that?... I did.

  • I genuinely believe that many of the issues of the world – whether it's the world of ourselves or the world that we all live in – would dissipate if people / organisations / countries expressed their needs assuredly, whilst respecting the rights and feelings of others.

  • I believe that doing so would be a major contributor to 'world' peace - whether that's your world or the whole world!

You'll also find resources/links below that can help you with the 'how?'... (Oh and do get involved, eh, tell us what you think!)

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I - just - want - to - have - my - say - too!

 

Assertiveness

What the Self Help Collective says...

Well, this is what you'll find on the Self Help Collective website - assertive wisdom of many, all carefully selected and commented on by me:

 

HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE

"Learn how to stand up for yourself, today!" Yes, find articles, tips, and even a YouTube video all about how to be assertive ...
Read more here!

 


...TECHNIQUES

Do you have a sneaking suspicion that you're not assertive enough? Well, check out Larina Kase's six assertiveness techniques...
Read more here!

 

DEVELOPING ASSERTIVENESS

I don't think you can know too much about developing assertiveness, whoever you are; it's such an important life skill...
Read more here!

 


INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS

Discover 6 ways to improve your interpersonal skills to unknown heights - Abhishek Agarwal's sensible assertiveness advice...
Read more here!

 

BODY LANGUAGE

Improve your communication skills by reading this page on assertive behaviour and body language. Spot the signs...
Read more here!

 


COMMUNICATION SKILLS

A single web page on all you need to know about communication skills? Now that is good communication! Actually...
Read more here!

 

LISTENING SKILLS

Would you like to improve your listening skills when you communicate? Good. Effective communication begins with...
Read more here!


CAN COACHING HELP?

Would you like to be so okay with yourself that it never matters whether you're assertive or not ever again?...
Read more here!

 

 

 

Assertive behavior - What I say...

I say "No" to passive aggressiveness (and plain ol' aggressiveness) and "Yes" to...

A-S-S-E-R-T-I-V-E-N-E-S-S!

And this is not easy for me to say - clearly! - because, for the most of my life anyway, I have not been assured, emphatic or decisive enough, with myself or with others. And guess what suffers because of this 'lack' - interpersonal relations (relationships with your siblings, intimate relationships, friendships, work-relations) communication skills (how the world sees and hears you) and much more, that's what?

It's not something to put a smile on anyone's face!

But smiling's good for ya so what the hey!

And so is learning how to be assertive.

So in one regard I am highly qualified to talk about this - the problems that occur with a lack of being 'certain' enough - but in another regard, I am not (i.e. do I really know how to develop assertiveness?). I am very much a work in progress, like you probably, so I am very much interested in what you have to say too...


Share Your Thoughts About Being Assertive

About being assertive - what YOU say...

How do you do assertiveness? One persons's assertiveness is another person's rude and bossy, sometimes, don't you think? And that's why I'd love to hear of a time when you think you asserted yourself with someone - anyone! - successfully.

Or you can just tell us what being assertive means to you.

Either way, please share your views with the rest of us! Thanks.

What Other Visitors Have Said...

Click on the links below to read other visitors' 'being assertive' stories. And please feel free to comment on them! Thanks.

Being Assertive To My Dominant Daughter. 
What assertiveness means to me is to speak up for your rights, to be able to give and take in simple terms. To Listen to others points of view, …

Assertive - With Love 
I wasn't very assertive when growing up. I said Yes to everything I was asked to do even if I didn't really want to - I wanted to be accepted. As I …

To me, assertiveness is... 
Well I wish I had a story about assertiveness but I just don't. Yet, anyway. (Got loads of stories about not being assertive, but that doesn't help here! …

Click here to write your own.