Your anger management journey begins here... I think!   

Are You Sure You Don't Have
Anger Management 'Issues'?

Okay, what has the management of your anger got to do with self-help?

Y'know, if another person asks me that I swear my blood will boil it really will!...

Ha ha. Actually, it is a good question and one I considered carefully as I researched this website.

Anger is such a harsh, stern word after all, and most of the other topics covered at The Self Help Collective seem positive and upbeat.

Well... the simple fact is, if you're angry (and you spend a lot of your time being angry) then you're not happy!...

	"Don't make me angry! You wouldn't like me when I'm angry" Hey, can you remember when you last got really angry? Care to share?

...Not that there's anything wrong with anger, or being angry - annoying stuff happens to all of us, after all - but your anger does need to be managed. And hopefully this page will at least point you in the right direction, and you might have the odd giggle too. (Have you checked out these amusing YouTube videos, for example?)

Anger Management

Anger Management - what I say...

When it comes to anger, I can't help thinking (as you'll soon see) about the Buddha's thoughts. He said some wise stuff in his time, but this really hits home for me...

"Holding onto anger is like grasping onto a hot coal
with the intent of throwing it at someone else.
You are the one who gets burned." -- Buddha

I know, for example, that I don't do anger very well, right now. I don't express my anger at the right time and in the right place - I let it stew. For years and years and years. (Ah, the joy of siblings! The joy of life without teen anger problems!) And then I'm on the look out for the first thing 'wrong' that that person does to me and blammo! - a mountain out of a molehill, an ugly scene, tears etc.

Ugly, ugly, ugly and so easily avoidable... with anger management.

So I know that it is me that suffers with this unexpressed anger and I am working on it (should you be concerned ;-) ). But I bet I'm not the only one with such a problem. (This (fictional) man has anger issues, for example, though you may not appreciate it on this witty(?) page about the Buddha and his quotations.)

Yes, we probably all have anger problems and could all probably benefit from some tips from time to time. And I'm even more positive that we could benefit from stress management tips, too.

So how do we manage our anger, then?

As ever, the first step in solving the problem is recognising that we have one. (Check out this toolkit to measure your anger, why don't you!)

For example, at first glance I know that I don't have any anger problems and I can't imagine myself ever attending one of those classes. I rarely get angry. I'm actually quite a calm and steady person. However I also know that I do suffer from road rage (and I hardly ever drive) and I also know that whenever I do get angry it stays with me for a very long time.

So just not getting angry does not mean you don't have anger problems.

And just because the people you know deal with your odd moodiness, doesn't mean that you don't have a problem.

And then there are the obvious 'exploding head' candidates that you just want to run away from, fast!

(Of course it is possible that you don't get angry and that you don't have anger problems. In that case would you mind please sharing your 'angry management' tips with us? ;-) Contact us here!)

So, you recognise the problem with your angriness and then you take the appropriate action. That could mean doing one of the following:

• Going on an anger management class
• Reading (and putting into action) one of these anger management tips
• Buying a book on the subject
• Talking about your anger with your therapist, friend or even your partner
• Checking out one of these anger management resources
• etc.

Problem-solving, whatever the problem, is not rocket science! Just recognise the problem, identify the solution, and put that solution into practice.

And the Self Help Collective isn't hear to provide you with all the answers (any answers, even) as the answer lies within you.

So I'll say no more for now about this now. Of course I welcome your (more or less expert) opinions on the subject - just fill in the contact us form!

And I'll leave you with this pithy quote from the film, Anger Management:

"Remember, Lou, temper's the one thing you can't get rid of by losing it"

Oh! One last thing, you can learn more about anger and it's management from these articles. Enjoy! (And if you don't enjoy, please don't get cross with me, eh! ;-) )

You Know You Got Anger Management Problems, When...

Your 'angry' story - what YOU say...

Click on the links below to read other visitors' anger mismanagement stories. (And please feel free to comment on them! But do remember, this can happen to us all! Thanks. :-) )

"No, I Do NOT Want To Play Cards!" 
Anger Management Gone Wrong - Steve-Stylie!...

Okay, I need to provide you with a little back-story here. (And you know when you have to provide ...

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