Q. What's so 'special' about SelfHelpCollective.com?
Q. And who the heck is Steve M Nash, and what does he know about personal development and the like? (And what else am I going to find on this 'about us' page?)
Ah, so many questions... And here are some answers:
As for the answers to the other questions, let me introduce myself, first...
Hello. My name is Steve M Nash and this is me in 2010 – A man with dreadlocks no less!
SelfHelpCollective.com is a guru-free website, which means... I ain't no 'guru'. Specifically, this means the following, as regards the self help advice you'll find here:
Now this type of 'professional proof' may well be important to you and if it is - professionals do have their place, after all - then this site's a good place to look: Mental Health America, as is this one Mental Health Foundation.
If, however, you're someone who believes fundamentally in their own power, and in their own judgement (as I do, and as I urge you to do), then you will rely on your own judgement of what you read (at SelfHelpCollective.com) first and foremost, no matter where the 'advice' comes from.
Thank you -
Call it 'feeling different to others', call it awkward shyness, call it what you will - for whatever reason, I have ALWAYS been interested in how people work, how I work. Even as a boy...
So initially I blamed "the world" for being hard to understand, looked to others to be reasonable, and I took NO personal responsibility for how I felt (had no idea that It was important to do so). I was negative, 'unpopular' and spent much of my life on my own. (No, no need to get out the violins... just yet, anyways! ;-) )
And, even though my journey of personal discovery has been a slooooow one at times, the personal insights I've experienced over the last 15 years or so - via life experience, reading self-help books, and other personal growth tools - have helped me understand so much more about 'the meaning of life, the universe and everything'.
I am still a work-in-progress, obviously, but now:
Enter stage left, the world of self-help and 'spirituality'... I read books, bought CDs and DVDs, watched YouTube videos - anything to help me understand myself, and thus to help me understand the world.
And whilst I am less of a fan of self-help than I used to be - I believe self-help chases the symptom, and not the source - I am grateful for its part in my growth.
Yes, so-called 'experts' (self-help gurus) serve a purpose but... ultimately, your life is your own responsibility and you must make the decisions and take the relevant actions etc., and rely on your own self to do so. (And if the experts and gurus were a little bit more honest about their own limitations you'd hear these words from them too!)
So if you take anything from this SelfHelpCollective.com website, please let it be these words:
"Learn from others... but teach yourself!"
So, yes, the Self Help Collective is about unlocking the wisdom that is inside YOU. This site aims to encourage you to use that wisdom - a collective wisdom; so who I am is not really important. Well I don't think so, anyway.
Think of me as a facilitator.
And if you could do a better job, or if you think you know more about a particular self-help subject, then great - get in touch and share your wisdom!
Yes, I am a fan of inspirational quotes - I think the wisdom that they often possess says more than a thousand words can. Inspirational quotations like these:
"A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings
because it has a song."
-- Maya Angelou
"People of character do the right thing, not because they
think it will change the world but because they refuse to
be changed by the world."
-- Michael Josephson
NOTE: My popular newsletter, The Weekly Wonder, contains my thoughts on a particular quotation - what it really means for us to embrace and embody some particular wisdom. Sometimes I share my thoughts in the written form, and other times I share my thoughts by video. For example:
Now the funny thing about my passion for self-help, and thus why I created SelfHelpCollective.com in the first place, is that I didn't fully appreciate this interest of mine - self-improvement - until I decided to build another in a line of websites in Feb 2008.
So I decided to build my next site using SiteSell's SBI! (formerly Site Build It!) - to purchase a subscription to SBI! - and to see what website I came up with.
To keep things short here, I'll include some links where you can find out more about what happened next:
Overall, I believe in you (and me) to make a positive difference to your world (and mine).
I believe it's important that we see ourselves for who we truly are.
I believe that we should learn from others, but teach ourselves - that is why SelfHelpCollective.com exists: to offer guru-free, non-prescriptive tips and advice on self-help and personal development. If you know better, fine; if you don't agree with what your read here, fine.
Thanks for reading,
Steve M Nash
PS I would just like to share you with a few more of my favourite self-help resources, for you, that you might benefit from. In no particular order: